Splitting the number of guests 50/50

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Having an equal amount of of guests from my side and my partner's side.

For example, I have more family than he does. But he has more friends that he'd wish to invite. AIBU to split the number down the middle?

We have joint friends so would need to allocate some of them from both sides of the g-list.

Too complicated?

Seems a very odd way to talk about your wedding day - far too 'business contract' to me.

We started with a list of all the people we definitely wouldn't dream of getting married without them there, then another list of the people we'd really want to be there, then another list of folk "it would be nice to be able to invite".

If one person happens to have several siblings and other really close family members and the other doesn't, that's irrelevant. That is your 'core number' IMO, then you look at closest friends - and again, people 'do' friendships differently, and their friends might be at different stages of some being already married, others being single etc.
If you can't talk about this and reach a sensible agreement that does involve emotion - as obviously it will - it seems to be an odd relationship to me.

I agree with the above poster. My partner and I just compiled a list of people we wanted to invite to our wedding, I haven’t even worked out which guests are ‘his’ and which are ‘mine’. It’s an odd way to think about a wedding guest list.