Wedding Dress Regret

[homebird29]

Ordered my wedding dress at short notice for my September wedding. Tried on about 8, picked one that I thought I loved but now having massive regrets! Of all the photos, it is the one that looks most unflattering on my figure. But it’s what I loved most style wise. Did anyone else have this?

Not too late to change it for smth else if your wed is in Sep? I wouldn't want to have such regrets over my wed dress

In December after trying several dresses I bought a dress that I thought I wanted (in hindsight other people saying it suited me made me think it did). Then a few days later I had regrets (and the other dresses looked a lot better looking at photos), luckily they had a 14 day policy. It turns out I rushed the process and didn’t try on enough to find the style that suited me and that I was happy with. In January I visited 4-5 shops, took more time in deciding and only took my mum along. I bought a dress that is not quite the style I imagined but it suits me, and I don’t have regrets. Only a year to go now, due to covid and the unknown we postponed.

Good luck with your wedding.

I think brides often get the wrong dress. I don’t think they look bad on the day because a beautiful dress goes a long way. But clearly you can see brides have gone for something that ticks boxes in their head rather than the mirror.

You can get a brand new dress easily for £200. Plenty of people sell on end of lines and sample bridal gowns . High street shops sell them, JJ House from China ( although cutting it too fine for September)
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I would keep the one you have just in case. You could always have two dresses on the day!

Oh gosh I'm glad someone else has posted this because I'm having major doubts
I bought my dress in Nov for my may wedding that got cancelled.
We are now having the wedding next year and I don't like how I look in the dress.

I had this exact thread last week... I picked my dress up and it looks awful. I hate it.

I'd like to say that I've changed my mind, but when the seamstress has pinned it, I still hated it. I've bought something else. I feel sick about the lost money, but I'm a lot more comfortable in the new dress...

This is making my nerves/stomach churn. I'm getting married next June and have booked an appointment at a bridal shop for my first foray in to wedding dress shopping for next month. I'm terrible at making decisions and I'm only allowed to take one guest with me. I'm taking my DM because this will be the only chance she'll ever get to be involved in the wedding of her children, but in all honesty I'm not sure I trust either her, or my, judgement!

God I hope I choose the right one!!

@DistinguishedCarrot I took my best friend and my future mother in law, who was a personal shopper for a while...

But my advice would honestly be to go, enjoy yourself if you can - it took me about an hour to settle into it and I was never really comfortable, but it was okay - and leave your cards at home so you can't pay a deposit. That way, you can't succumb to the feeling and buy one that you're not sure about - you can go back and try it on again, and it gives you an extra chance to spot anything not quite right.

I really wish I'd done that, I don't think I'd have bought it without that rush of emotions... a second viewing would have saved me!

[quote ShellsAndSunrises]@DistinguishedCarrot I took my best friend and my future mother in law, who was a personal shopper for a while...

But my advice would honestly be to go, enjoy yourself if you can - it took me about an hour to settle into it and I was never really comfortable, but it was okay - and leave your cards at home so you can't pay a deposit. That way, you can't succumb to the feeling and buy one that you're not sure about - you can go back and try it on again, and it gives you an extra chance to spot anything not quite right.

I really wish I'd done that, I don't think I'd have bought it without that rush of emotions... a second viewing would have saved me![/quote]
Thanks @ShellsAndSunrises - I went, I saw and I conquered!

The ladies in the shop were lovely - they suggested selecting 6 dresses to try. I picked 5 and was struggling to find a 6th (I'd gone dress blind by then). The lady in the shop asked if she could choose one for me and well, you can guess where this is going... she definitely had a better eye than either me or my DM!

We did end up paying the deposit there and then because I totally fell in love with it. It's so very flattering (which I wasn't expecting as a size 18/20) and enhances my curves without a) drawing attention to them; and b) emphasising them. I literally cannot wait to wear it again and can't stop looking at the photos of me in it in the shop. My DP is going to wonder who the hell is walking down the aisle towards him as it's not at all what he'll be expecting!

Hell, it wasn't what I was expecting!

If you go to a reputable bridal shop the best advice you will get is from your sales assistent, they don't want their reputation ruined by selling something to a bride who is unhappy . I went on my own, had excellent service and am still delightd with the choice I made (22 years ago)

I did the same. Went dress shopping and was led into buying the dress that others thought looked good on me. It was on sale and a bargain but had to be paid in full so I bought it. Regretted it almost instantly. Ended up buying a different one and had to suck up the loss.

I am feeling this right now! I bought a dress last week, it was off the peg so felt the pressure to purchase, it was the best one by far but I wasn't 100% sold. But then I am very indecisive! Wish I had shopped around a bit now. My friend took a pic of me in it and I keep looking at the picture and thinking how horrible I look! I know I felt amazing when I tried it on but the picture makes me hate it. Facebook ads has shown me a dress today that I absolutely LOVE and I feel so sick about it! I have had to book to go try this dress on this Saturday and I am hoping I don't love it or its going to cost me £300 deposit 😩

I would advise to take your time, take lots of photos, go home and look at them and then go back for a second visit to pick out your dress. Some of us really can't make decisions on the spot.

I regretted my wedding dress but it was fine.

The day was a wonderful, happy event and it's a long and happy marriage. I don't say that to be all sanctimonious and "it's not about the dress" rather just to say that it didn't make much difference to how wonderful it all turned out to be.

My dress was nice but not what I'd hoped for and the photos are grim. They're unflattering, unprofessional and I didn't have my hair, nails or make-up "done" which really shows ... I just don't show the pictures to folk!