Asked not to be a bridesmaid due to IVF treatment.

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Hi all,

I would like some thoughts on my current situation. My friend has just asked me to not be a bridesmaid anymore for her wedding this October. Her reasons are that since myself and my husband are currently having IVF, I can't attend her hen do during July as I'm socially isolating (apart from going to work). She said due to not being able to go for dress shopping/ not knowing if the dress will fit it makes it awkward for her and doesn't think it's what she wants. ( I offered that she could post me the dress and I that I would pay for any amendments) My other friends are furious on my behalf. Im close to ditching this friend, as I know she wants a baby also so I feel this may be a jelous move. For myself and my husband this is our first try and so excited, and I feel like I'm being punished for in her words "making choices that don't fit in with her special day".

Thanks,
Louise B

Offer up thanks for the get out. Sit back and thoroughly enjoy the shenanigans she pulls on the rest of your friends. By popcorn.

I thought bridesmaids were meant to be about honouring friendship and wanting your friends to stay close to you through your marriage, not photo ops and parties.

It sounds like she's done you a favour.

What a bitch! You've had a lucky escape. Sorry for any hurt you feel though. Good luck with the IVF! x

Shocked to hear your still calling her a friend tbh, what a lovely thing to do to support you through ivf xx

Just to play devils advocate it does depend how she broached the subject with you?
One of my friends was really dumped on when her bridesmaid got pregnant and had a newborn at the wedding. She screwed over the bridesmaids outfits and created loads of issues because she was pregnant/had a newborn.

I am not saying she is right but there is little context.

Ditch the friend. What a cow she is.

Get rid. And tell her why. Tell her she's a hideous human being.
Wishing you lots of luck for your IVF.
I can't believe people like your 'friend' actually exist!