Wedding favours?

[pinkpanther84]

Hi, I am getting married soon and am wondering about wedding favours- are they necessary/expected? We need to save money somewhere and my partner thinks we shouldn't bother with them. Would it be fine to leave them out?

I think they are nice and help to pass some time at the table when you are having speeches etc but nothing is a must it's just want you want to do...
For my wedding I just bought sweets and sweet bags to match the colour theme and they were the favours, doesn't have to be anything too expensive if you do them but each choice you make is your own and I doubt anyone would overly care either way.

I'd leave them out. I think things have moved on from wedding favours.

Yes totally fine to leave them out.

Waste of money imo. No one remembers them unless they are amazing.

Waste of money. I've helped at a couple friends weddings and at the other ones I've attended I've noticed as many favours are left on the table as taken by guests.

I think they’re a waste of money and it’s very sad to see so many unwanted favours left on the table at the end of the night

Worse ones:

• anything which the men get one of and the women get another
• anything with the couples details on, ie “Ben and Charlotte’s wedding 18th august 2002”
• any bit of tat - candles, magnets, basically one-off things that don’t really go in people’s houses
• worst one by a country mile is homemade tat. Homemade lip balm is probably the worst thing I could think of.

Make much much worse if it combines all the above. Ie men get a little bottle of jäger and the women get a homemade, naff little lip balm with the couple’s details in a twee little tin

Home made fudge if you have to.

I think they’re a waste; every wedding I’ve been to they’ve either been left or thrown away once we get home.
We had wedding guest cards on the tables for people to fill in and those were about £20-30 and well worth it. They gave something for people to do and are lovely memories for us

Nobody notices if they aren't there. I think I spent a whole £30 on mine.

If you need something to pass the time during speeches, the speeches are too long. Give everyone a 5 minute limit so the guests don't die of boredom.

Things like mini packets of Love Hearts are cheap but nice.

Waste of money. All the time and effort I put into finding something I thought was nice and original.

Still loads of them got left behind...

Have you ever heard anyone say, ' it was the best wedding ever, you should have seen the favours'?

I’m just waiting for someone to come on and say “we had personalised favours and years later people have still kept them!” Despite literally everyone else saying opposite

Definitely seems like the general consensus is not to bother! Thanks for the replies

We are having biscuits made with each person's name piped on so they double as a place name and a favour. They're not cheap at £5 each (happy to provide you with the company name if you like) but you could easily make your own if you have a steady hand for piping!

That way people don't have to carry around favours for the entire night or feel like they have to keep them, they can just eat them

Perfect place to cut back as noone notices them or cares, unless they're crap!

The only ones I've ever seen appreciated were lucky dip lottery tickets and shots of homemade alcohol.

Or scratchcards.

Absolute waste of money.

Last wedding I attended loads of them were simply forgotten and left on tables.

I'd perhaps also controversially say the same of £££ wedding cakes that appear in one photo then get chopped up and largely not eaten by guests.

They need to be immediately edible. Otherwise they are a complete waste of time and money, and most of them will be chucked out by the waiting staff when they clear the table.

We had scratchards at a wedding recently which was quite fun. But no not a requirement at all.

Id love a pack of forget me not seeds personally. But a big bag (cheap) and decent I to tiny brown paper cones with initials and date on. Easy to make I the evenings

We made a CD of our special yo is tracks. Bought cheapo CDs online and just fid them one at a time. One per couple or per single guest.where we did one for each of a pair in a couple they werent all taken. Put on special date songs first dance, meaningful stuff. People like yo hear and a free CD is always popular or maybe now you could go it online fo ppl download eith a card to the li k orca memorycstck.theyre really cheap. I buy in bulk for work but not techie enough to know! People still say they love our cd.
You can give mimentoes as people leave if they're tiny like wild flower bombs people dont forget youn they're pretty and they do a great job for wildlife and come back every year! What's your wedding style? @pinkpanther84

Scratch cards.

Instead of table numbers, we called each of our tables by the name of sweets, so Rolos (the table most likely to drive big expensive cars) , Smarties (the teachers and techies, they were flattered, we were being ironic), Minstrels (the singers), Love Hearts (DINKIES), Mars (for people who live in another time zone, or even another planet), Wine Gums (for the non-drinkers) etc and we just left fun size versions of the sweets on the tables - they were a great source of entertainment as people were trading sweets for sweets or bottles of wine or spare desserts. SIL volunteered to bring a box of Ferrero Rocher for the top table to truly spoil us - and promptly forgot!