Do the hens pay the brides share of the hen do?

[Mumtobe193]

Is it the done thing?

Especially if said bride lives on the other side of the country to her hens and is the only person having to pay a £100 train fare to have the hen party in a place that suits everyody else (but not her)?

No, I don’t think so. I think the bride should pay.

Everyone pays for themselves. Including the bride.

It depends - can the hens afford to chip in towards the train fare? Who decided to have it at that location?

The location was decided on jointly as it suited 10 out of the 12 hens. Which is fair enough.

As it works out at less than a tenner each, I'd be inclined to pay it. If the hens all had to drive to where was more convenient for the bride - on her hen do - they would have spent at least that on petrol.

Any one I've ever been to the bride doesn't pay for the meal/ activity or whatever but usually pays for her own travel.

I’ve been on a few that the hens have all clubbed together to pay for the bride, but it’s not a rule. It depends on the hens and the costs involved.

Who organised it?

I would expect to pay the bride’s share of accommodation and activities but not fund the travel.

On all the hen dos I've been on the brides share is split amongst the hens

I would expect to pay for the bride (within reason!).

Normally yes. Any hen do i've been on we've covered the bride.

Yes.

We paid for ourselves on our hen weekend and wouldn't have expected otherwise but we organised it ourselves whereas if someone else organised it, it would be up to them if they split it.
£100 is a lot to pay extra to go on your own hen party though.

My 3 hens are paying my hotel and flights for a full weekend abroad. I tried to insist on paying, but they insisted.

We went from London to Liverpool- the brides sister who organised everything paid her travel and accommodation but we split the main meal between us all. Felt fair.

All the hen do's I've been to we split the cost of the brides hotel and activities but they paid there own travel and spending

I'm going on a hen do and the MOH keeps messaging adding additional costs.
She said about splitting the cost of the brides share of the accommodation which everyone agreed too (but we weren't actually asked, just told).
Now several activities have been booked and we've been told we're paying for the brides share.
No meals or transport has been factored in.
With every message, it's getting more and more expensive. One Hen told me she really can't afford it but is too scared to pull out as only specific people were invited so if she doesn't go, everyone else will have to pay even more.
I'm not sure I'm going to be able to afford it if anything else is added.
Will she expect us to pay towards the brides food and drinks?
She's already said about getting her a present (paid by us all).
I just thought if the bride wants to do so many activities, she'd be willing to pay towards it.
And if the MOH wants to get a hen do present, can't she pay for it?!

I’ve been on 10 hens in 4 years. Always paid for brides accommodation and activities. Bride pays for travel and spending. Bridesmaids usually cover the extra bits but sometimes asked to contribute a few pound. Always had a little thank you present from bride from macaroons to bar bills

Yes

@ToDoListAddict
I’ve never paid for the brides food / drink but would always expect to pay for the accommodation and activities. The present is from the hens not the moh so yes you should contribute but personal message montages and photos albums are inexpensive and thoughtful. Why not suggest this.
You need to tell the moh how you feel. Explain the situation and how you are feeling. If you can’t get through to her explain the situation to the bride. She would rather people attend than have them pulling out over expenses.

Hens always pay. Or the husband to be!

I've been on 10+hens and the bride never pays!!!