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Wedding With A Baby

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jimbo07818 · 04/02/2020 16:49

Ok, we're getting married in Feb 2021 but have just found out that my girlfriend is pregnant.
Will be due in October so the baby will be 4 months old.

We can't postpone the wedding unfortunately so it looks like we're going to need to do this.

Really just after some advice, reassurance etc......

We'll have all our family and friends there obviously but will this "spoil" the day?
Will we just be constantly tending to the baby?
Our parents (I only have a mum, she has both but her Dad is not really the type to look after babies) are 69 and 71 years old so they can't be expected to look after the little one overnight.
But will be more than happy to help during the day but we appreciate everybody wants to enjoy the day and let their hair down.
So it's likely we would have to have the baby in with us the night of the wedding, I know my girlfriend wouldn't want to be away from the baby for any significant amount of time. We have accommodation in the same venue so not far to go but we can't expect someone to just sit in the bedroom, watching the baby for us.
Is this just going to be too stressful?
Not that there's anything we can do about it now, it's GOING to happen so we just need advice really.

Also we already have 4 children so the honeymoon wasn't going to be too long - we were looking at 3 nights in Dubai but obviously we will have to rethink that maybe and either NOT have one, or maybe go somewhere on a shorter flight. Would a honeymoon be ok with a baby? Somewhere in Spain or Greece possibly for a few days. We would only be relaxing anyway so if we went next summer when the baby was say 8/9 months old? Anyone done that?

Help?

Please?

Haha

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Raindancer411 · 04/02/2020 16:54

Our son was 5 months old and it didn't interfere with our wedding. In fact he slept through the disco in his buggy!! No clue how but he did lol

DoraleeRhodes · 04/02/2020 23:39

We did it with a six month old. It was ok, plenty of people on hand willing to help. She was still breastfed so was tending to her a fair bit, and had her in the sling too for a while but it didn’t detract from the day. Sure it was different than it would’ve been without a baby, but we had a great day.
We did decide to postpone the honeymoon though, waiting a couple of years for that so we can leave the children with family and go alone.

Didntwanttochangemyname · 20/02/2020 08:15

I hired a nanny for the day, she was wonderful. DC dad rarely out of my sight but it meant there was someone changing nappies, entertaining etc but the second DC needed feed she'd be right by my side so I could nip off somewhere quiet to feed.
My family aren't really 'baby' people, so I couldn't ask them to do it.
Then when DC fell asleep, the nanny stayed with them until we went to bed.
It wasn't cheap, but it was worth every penny.

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