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Unsure about my wedding dress.. Advice please?

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Talkthirtytome · 25/10/2019 12:22

I don't get married until next spring but I bought my dress about 6 months ago. I just went for a look with my friend and decided I loved the third dress I tried and bought it there and then (wed2b) my mum was upset she wasn't there and the more I think about it so am I and I wish I hadn't been so impulsive. I've had it altered and it's a nice dress (it's ball gown style with layers and a fitted embellished bodice) but I think I've now had so much time to look at and imagine myself in other styles I just don't LOVE it. My poor dad has paid about £800 in all and we hardly have any spare cash. Would you try and sell the dress or stick to avoid upset and leaving us out of pocket?

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TwattingDog · 25/10/2019 12:36

Stick with it.

What was it that you loved about it when you bought it? Have you tried it on with a veil / tiara / whatever accessories you want with it? What made it special?

That your mum didn't help pick it isn't enough of a reason to change it, IMO.

Get her to come over and help you dress with all the embellishments. See how you both feel then.

Which dress did you go for? Mine was also from Wed2B, a ball gown, illusion neck. Called Divine!

DoraleeRhodes · 25/10/2019 13:01

I’d say stick with it, you chose it for a reason. Can you get your mum more involved in some other elements of the wedding instead maybe? Shoes, flowers, hair etc?

SheWoreBlueVelvet · 25/10/2019 13:42

I didn’t love my dress either but everyone else did. Actually looking back it’s look lovely and perfect for the day we had. There are still other dresses that look amazing but honestly all weddings look dated after a decade. Save yourself the stress and the money and go with what you have. Buy fabulous shoes or boots if you need to feel better about it.

.Personally I think a ball gown style is a fairly good choice anyway as it’s so obviously bridal and is pretty flattering for most shapes.

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Talkthirtytome · 25/10/2019 17:41

I loved the skirt as it was they called waterfall so it's basically tiered with shorter layers and longer layers, I thought it was unusual and princess like! I also liked the embellishment on the bodice. They gave me the whole it's the only we 're getting on this size ect. Mum's been with me for the alterations and it's lovely but I'm worried I've talked myself out of it! It's called Brit I believe or Britney. All in all with veil ect it's cost about grand so I didn't know if it was worth the risk and upset just so I have a dress I cry when I try on and call it the one like everyone mentions!

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maternity123qwe · 25/10/2019 17:56

Stick with OP, a grand is a huge amount of money when you don’t have any. I bet your dad has saved hard to be able to pay for it.

Put the other dresses out of your mind, I’ve had a look online and I think it’s beautiful.

TwattingDog · 25/10/2019 20:51

Honestly, I think programmes like "Say Yes To The Dress" raise expectations, and have us all wanting to sob whenever we go near our dresses. It's not like that for all of us. It certainly wasn't for me.

This is a STUNNING gown! I adore that skirt, the tiers are just beautiful! I would love to have seen that when I was looking, seriously! I bet you look amazing in it.
www.wed2b.co.uk/brit

Geppili · 25/10/2019 22:16

It absolutely beautiful!

Bluntness100 · 25/10/2019 22:18

Is that it? Because if it is, that's gorgeous.

Geppili · 25/10/2019 22:20

It absolutely beautiful!

Geppili · 25/10/2019 22:20

Sorry

Spanielmadness · 25/10/2019 22:21

I love my dress - it’s second hand and I didn’t cry when I chose it, but it’s the right dress. It’s beautiful and makes my figure look smoking hot!

I think there’s a great expectation to sob and cry out ‘this is the one, the only, the perfect dress!’ Real life isn’t like that.......

Ohyesiam · 25/10/2019 22:21

Op that’s a dream dress. Really magical.
You are way overthinking this. It’s a beautiful dress, you are marrying the man you love infront of others you love. What’s not to like?

thenightsky · 25/10/2019 22:24

That's one of the most beautiful wedding dresses I've ever seen OP! Don't go changing it.

MsChatterbox · 25/10/2019 22:25

That's a gorgeous dress 😍. Even if that's not it I would stick with it. I imagine your dad was quite proud buying your wedding dress and I wouldn't want to take that away from him by changing it like it's nothing.

Mumdiva99 · 25/10/2019 22:26

Dress is gorgeous. Now put it out of your mind and focus on something else. have you got your make up sorted? Hair dresser booked? Food organised? A list of photos for the photographer to take? A playlist for the music....

Haworthia · 25/10/2019 22:28

I tried one dress on... ONE... and bought it.

Yeah, I guess it would have been fun to try on dozens of dresses like you see people doing on TV, but in the grand scheme of things it didn’t matter.

3luckystars · 25/10/2019 22:29

Did you cry when you met your husband? I'm a big Randy fan myself but I definitely did not feel anything like those Americans do.
If you loved it and it felt right then it is right.

Loads of people have second thoughts. It's normal.

MadisonAvenue · 25/10/2019 22:29

Your dress is absolutely beautiful!

NomDeQwerty · 25/10/2019 22:30

I'm a huge cynic about weddings and wedding dresses but that dress is properly gorgeous.

Shinysun · 25/10/2019 22:39

Its stunning! Please stick with it, theres a reason you chose it. I was 8 months pregnant when I got married and got my maternity wedding dress from Web2B. It was gorgeous. I never thought I'd feel like a beautiful bride at 8 months pregnant and the dress is NEVER something I would have picked.

PonteLaCorona · 25/10/2019 22:59

Oh OP its lovely! I had a very similar one for my wedding and had the dress fear right up until my final fitting but on the day it was so perfect.

I think there is so much pressure on brides to find "the one" and to look amazing, but the thing is that you will be so busy smiling and glowing, you'll look incredible whatever.

You obviously chose that dress for a reason (because it's amazing!) Would a full hair and make-up dress rehearsal help? What accessories do you have to go with it?

SocksForceFive · 25/10/2019 22:59

Did you post a picture of yourself in the dress before OP? Think I remember it?

NumbersStation · 25/10/2019 23:05

Your dad is going to be so proud walking you down the aisle. It is beautiful and so will you be

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Talkthirtytome · 27/10/2019 01:40

Thank you so much all. You've helped me to decide it would be silly to upset people and lose money for the sake of it. Yes that's the one on the link although I've swapped the mesh chest for lace so it does look slightly different to the model but at least that means no one will have it identical to me I suppose. I have the veil although I'm not sure about it, tiara and shoes. I'm not sure on jewellery as with the lace now the top half is quite busy so maybe some nice earrings. You're right and I need to stop fixating on it and concentrate on other elements of the wedding! Thanks all again

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DramaAlpaca · 27/10/2019 01:45

Just agreeing with everyone else, that dress is utterly beautiful. Keep the jewellery simple like you say, just some gorgeous earrings. You will look amazing.

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