Feel really awful but I need to tell one of my bridesmaids that she can’t be bridesmaid anymore.
Wedding isn’t until 2020 but we’ve talked about it for years as been engaged 6 years now. We always said she would be my bridesmaid as we were really close friends at the time. Over a year ago I moved away from the local area (30 mins away) and so we’ve drifted apart now with having busy lives etc. She’s only visited once in that year for example whereas we used to see each other every week at least.
When we set the date and booked the wedding I told her and asked her to be bridesmaid as despite drifting apart I hoped to rekindle the friendship and really care for her a lot. The problem is since it’s been booked I’ve got a lot of people who ‘expect’ to be bridesmaid. My sister for example, other close friends etc.
I really can’t afford to have that many bridesmaids and I don’t want a large wedding party. I know that when I tell these people I can’t have them for this reason and they find out old friend is a bridesmaid it’s going to cause so much upset and fall out and I really don’t want that. My other bridesmaids are my daughters so no-one will question that.
I’m really thinking the easier option to keep everyone happy to to just have my daughters as bridesmaids as tell everyone it’s a small wedding and we’re not having a large wedding party.
But how on earth do I tell my friend who I’ve already asked to be bridesmaid that she can’t now. I’m so worried she will be upset and I understand that but the only other way I can see if solving this is ending up with 6 bridesmaids and I really can’t afford and don’t want that.