How much to spend on a gift..

[Shootingstar1115]

For a long life friend but somebody you haven’t been as close to in recent years (live in different areas and have new friends etc).

On the hen do recently the bride went out to the loo and people were discussing gifts. Two had booked nights away for the couple, another had booked them a spa day.

I can’t compete with that tbh. I can’t even afford nice things for myself and the children right now so don’t want to spend it on anyone else. Is this bad??

Obviously I will be buying a gift but after the month we’ve had financially (both cars failing, kids birthday, house repairs etc) it’s simply too much!

£50 John Lewis voucher normally for me

I thought a 50 quid voucher sounded about right as well.

I always just put money in a card. My cousin gets married next week and that's all I've done for her.

What you can afford - certainly no more than £50!

I’ve had to give a tenner and a lottery ticket before when I’ve been skint (numbers special to couple, wedding date for eg). Anyone with any grace won’t say a thing other than thank you

£50 voucher. It's classy, they won't have to try and find somewhere to our it, or try to arrange work around a spa day or a pre-booked trip.

We got many vouchers for our wedding and they were so helpful when redecorating our house or buying things for baby.

*somewhere to put it

If I'm attending all day I give 50 pounds. Either cash/currency of honeymoon/voucher.

If I'm attending evening only then either a good bottle of champagne (25-30 quid) or the equivalent in cash.

Should add when we got married we didn't ask for or expect anything. I genuinely only remember one perspn (FIL!!!!!!) and that's because he put a fiver in a card. I'd rather he either kept the fiver if he was that hard up, or bough a fiver bottle of fizz.