First time posting, very much in need of some gentle advice!
My sister in law has asked me to be bridesmaid at her wedding in May next year. She was a bridesmaid for me last year and was absolutely brilliant, couldn’t have managed without her. I was really looking forward to returning the favour. We were planning on starting to try for a baby around the end of next year, but financial and work situations have changed and we are in a position to start trying now. My concern is that my SIL has a very clear vision for her wedding, and she wants to order custom bridesmaid dresses from the US this month to take advantage of a special offer. I don’t really want to tell her that we’re trying because we don’t want to make a big deal about it, and it might not even happen before the wedding. But if it does happen I don’t want her to be upset that the dress doesn’t fit!
I’m thinking I have 3 choices:
A) tell her we’re trying and suggest to hold off ordering my dress until closer to the time
B) order the dress but add a few cm to measurements so it might be able to be altered
C) hold off on TTC until after the wedding...
My husband thinks I should just order the dress and worry about sizing etc if it becomes an issue, he’s very keen to start trying ASAP. I really don’t want her to think I’m opting out of the wedding or making life difficult for her but I’m a little reluctant to put my life on hold for almost a year by deciding not to try until after. I’m worried if we tell her that we are TTC then the whole family will know and it could be a bit stressful. Any thoughts or advice much appreciated!