Groomsmen costs??

[MissMoodyMoo]

Normally in a traditional Scottish weddings the groomsmen wear kilts to match the groom and fathers but I've decided I want ours to wear tartan suit trousers as there is so many of them (9) and the cost of the kilt hire is beyond ridiculous! So would it be rude to ask the groomsmen to buy their own? If I sent them the link? Or should I buy the trousers and bowtie and leave the white shirt upto them?
Apparently because we're providing the bridesmaid dresses it would be rude to expect the groomsmen to buy their own trousers? But they would be able to wear them again regularly unlike the bridesmaid dresses?

Who even really needs 9 groomsmen 😑😑😑 I'd be called the biggest bridezilla if I had I bridesmaids 🙄😂😂 I hardly even know 9 people I like lol!

Of course you must cover the costs of anything you are making anyone wear, to make your wedding look as you want it.
If you are daft enough to have 9 groomsmen, then that has to be factored in to your budget, yes.

Of course you must pay!

It would be beyond rude to expect them to buy their own, unless you didn’t mind what they wore.

If you want them to wear something specific then you need to cover the costs. 9 groomsmen is a lot! Personally I didn’t have any bridesmaids and my husband only had his best man. We still had people close to us at our wedding but by not doing bridesmaids/groomsmen we avoided all sorts of problems especially financial ones! Your friends will be there whether they are groomsmen or not

Yes you should pay!

Yes, your stbdh pays for his groomsmen.

1/2 the number of groomsmen, ditch the terrible tartan trews and hire kilts. Is the groom and other guests wearing kilts? The trews just won't look right beside a kilt.

Where the heck would someone regularly wear tartan trousers?

If they are wearing trews they will still need a waistcoat and jacket too.

Maybe try and reduce the number. What are they all for. There would be the standard groom, best man, fathers and possibly a couple of ushers at a push. Dress them and have the rest in black primark trousers and shirt ( grown up DS looked v nice in el cheapos from there) and sort them a complimenrary tie.the trousers are £10 &£5 for the shirts. I don't understand why there are so many. If you invite them you have to pay. I agree you can ask them to get their own white shirt but again go down to Primark. Their suit shirts are a fiver in lots of colours.

B&G pay for bridesmaid and groomsmen outfits. Why would your groomsmen want to wear tartan trousers again?

It will look awful OP. Each to their own and all but I think it will look terrible

Also if your future husband wouldn’t let you have 9 bridesmaids but he can have 9 groomsman I would be questioning why you are marrying him

How do I politely tell him be can't have 9 groomsmen 🙈🙈 4 of them are his old uni friends that he probably see's about twice a year but they keep in contact every day on a WhatsApp group chat and the other 5 are close friends from his school that we both regularly see and socialise with so I understand him wanting them to be apart of the wedding and in the important pictures.

And it's not that I want 9 bridesmaids o have chosen 4 very special bridesmaids and think 9 of either groomsmen or bridesmaids is a bit exesive but I do understand it's his special day too and he wants them to be apart of it

We were tthinking possibly similar to these trousers? This braces white shirt and a bow tie?

Am I being unreasonable and should I just go with the 9 groomsmen and the mammoth kilt hire prices?

It's up to you how you handle it, either you have less or pay for more, but yes you should cover the cost. My DH had a similar situation, we ended up with 9 ushers, 2 best men and 2 young teen page boy/little ushers. I had 3 adult bridesmaids and 3 flower girls. It was expensive but I paid for everything I expected them to wear. My bridesmaids bought their own shoes, the dresses were full length so I told them to wear whatever they wanted in whatever colour they wanted on their feet as you couldn't see them. They all wore nice shoes/sandals that they could wear again that we're comfortable for them.
We hired all the usher stuff.
I bought the flower girl dresses in the Next sale and sold them on eBay after the wedding for more than I paid for them!

We were tthinking possibly similar to these trousers? This braces white shirt and a bow tie?

Do you not like them ?

My Mums as a born and breed Scot is that only Sassenacks trying too hard wear tartan trews to a wedding.
From what you are saying the trews are not a family tartan. I agree with the others suck up the kilt hire in the correct tartan.

How many guests are coming? Having 13 people as bridesmaids and groomsmen might not leave many as standard guests.

Anyway, as others have said, you should pay really if you are insisting on what they wear.

You don't tell him how many groomsmen to have. You both agree a reasonable budget as the first thing you do, and he works out for himself how many groomsmen he can afford from that, and handles the booking of said suits, and any personal grumbles/needs of his groomsmen.

First rule of wedding planning is work out your budget and plan from there.