Should we TTC? Wedding is 2 months away

[PygmyPuff]

Hello all,
I have read lots of threads on mumsnet over the past few years but this is my first time posting.
I guess I am reaching out and looking for some friendly advice..
I have a 7 month old baby and me and my fiancé are getting married in just over 2 months time. Just last week I lost my grandmother who has pretty much been my parent figure throughout my life .. though her health had been declining for some time. We actually booked to get married in the local church in the hope that she would be able to make it to the ceremony and now that she has gone I just don’t know how I feel about the wedding. I’ve been stressed about it and my hearts not been in it and now this is even more the case. I love my fiancé and we’ve been together for years, feel like we’re already practically married! I just get so anxious about walking down the aisle/ being centre of attention. Since having my baby all my focus is on being a mum. I’ve also been broody pretty much since having our little one, and we have planned to have children quite close together. We had originally looked to start trying after the wedding, due to reasons such as getting into the dress, being able to enjoy the day etc. Well my dress which I bought before I was pregnant pretty much fits but still has the option of being able to be taken out a little at my final fitting if it’s not comfortable enough. As for enjoying the day well as awful as this sounds I just want it to be over with. The main thing I want from it now is to be married to my fiancé and then we can continue with our little family.
I guess my question is, should we just start trying to conceive now or wait until after the wedding as originally planned?

I would suggest you wait until after the wedding. What happens if you get pregnant as planned, but then suffer with terrible morning sickness? You want to be fit and well enough to enjoy the day, surely?

I had such bad morning sickness when pregnant, it definitely would’ve ruined my enjoyment of my wedding! You never know how pregnancy will affect you, I personally wouldn’t risk it.

Thanks for your replies xx I didn’t suffer with morning sickness when pregnant but I guess every pregnancy is different! I think I just need to find a way to feel positive about the wedding and enjoy it, and be patient a little while longer regarding trying for baby number two x

I would wait. I got pregnant very quickly. Came off the pill end of August and was pregnant in the October.

Sorry about the loss of your grandma I really hope you manage to find a way to enjoy your day. Honestly I'd wait. Two months will fly be and before you know it you'll be married and TTC. As for being centre of attention, are you walking down the aisle with anyone? It may help to have someone supportive with you so even though you'll still feel nervous, at least you'll have someone there. Is there anything you can plan for afterwards just the three of you which will give you something to look forward to if you're really not enjoying it?

Ah thank you xx yes my brother is walking me down the aisle so hopefully that will help. We weren’t planning on doing a proper honeymoon but hoping we can go away together for a few days as a family. Thanks for listening and for the advice 😊

I had very bad morning sickness at a friend's wedding. I was playing for the service, but didn't make it through the meal before having to go home. I would wait until the wedding is over.

I would wait a bit, your dc is very young and it's so hard with babies close together (mine are 2 years apart and it's so exhausting). Try and enjoy your wedding then the next chapter can begin