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I HATE my wedding dress now I've had my baby!!

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MissMoodyMoo · 22/05/2019 21:13

So I fell in love with the most gorgeous of wedding dresses and managed to get it for a bargain in the sale but since having my baby it just doesn't suit me! Or my new figure or visible stretch marks and I'm heartbroken!! I've got a year to save and find a new one but I've spent so much money on this one 😭😭😭 my mum says I'm being a bridezilla but I just don't feel comfortable in it 😞 it's gorgeous and it looked amazing when I first tried it on but the new me just doesn't suit it! I'm back roughly to my prebaby size with lumps and bumps as a bonus so I just can't stand the style on me anymore. Is it worth trying to sell or am I stuck looking at a dress I was once in love with but will never wear forever?

I HATE my wedding dress now I've had my baby!!
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Allhailthesun · 22/05/2019 22:54

If you are worried literally don’t have carbs or sugar 3 weeks before. It’s not rocket science. Anyone can eat only protein in and veg for two weeks
It’s a fab dress. Do 30 day shred to tone arms.
Easy.

LynetteScavo · 23/05/2019 06:37

If it was that easy everybody would be a toned size 6! Grin

The OP has said she is back to her original size, but because of the battering her body took its not the same shape. The 30 day shred won't sort it Hmm it didn't do much for me and I was already reasonably toned unless you do it every day for a year....?

Wellthatwastricky · 23/05/2019 08:04

OP, I mean this very kindly- please do not waste energy and time worrying about this right now. I absolutely agree you should love your dress and maybe this one won't be right for you anymore, but you really don't need to decide at the moment.

You are only 12 weeks after giving birth. Your uterus has barely finished contracting to its previous size. Your rib cage and hips may not yet have started to come in again. Also, you clearly had a traumatic experience, and I doubt you've physically or mentally recovered and got to grips with life as a mum yet. Sleep deprivation is also a bitch for perspective.

FWIW, I wore a similar dress - long before children and I couldn't wear that shape now, as alas two sections and a lot of internal scarring have irrevocably changed the shape of my stomach. However, I had horrendous diastatis recti (7-8cm 😩) and my physio thought I'd need surgical intervention but I started post natal Pilates at about 16 weeks post partum and by the time DC2 was 8 months old I had no separation, so I hope maybe the same could work for you. It's also taken a lot of time (and a second pregnancy!) for me to understand and accept the time it takes our bodies to change and recover from pregnancy.

A brief note to Boggles: I am lucky enough to know women from many different countries and all appear to face similar issues regarding body recovery after pregnancy. Aside from the word "grunt" as an adjective being crude and puerile, the idea that all women should have great bodies after childbearing is unhelpful at best and potentially damaging at worst. My body will never go back after two sections, one to save mine and my baby's life. I was left with huge internal scarring, and I'm still struggling to lose the pregnancy weight after DC2 thanks to chronic back pain and depression. Or perhaps I just have low standards?

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 23/05/2019 20:37

GTFO Boggles Angry

OP, I mean this really kindly, but I don’t think this is the right time to make any decisions while you’re probably super tired and stressed and not feeling quite like yourself right now. You can start saving for something anyway, but why don’t you try it on again in a few months and see how you feel then?

GreenTulips · 23/05/2019 20:42

Or go shopping and try on a few more dresses? You need to be happy with what your wearing. Find a style and buy closer to the wedding.

Mummyme87 · 23/05/2019 21:49

OP I completely get you. Some women are so lucky and spring back to their normal shape, however it is normal to develop a new shape and pregnancy changes everything including back size, hip shape etc.
I would definitely hold tight for a few months, maybe check out new shape dresses that you feel better in so you have an idea if you choose to change the dress.
My mummy tummy isn’t going anywhere no matter how much weight I lose, certain clothes will never look good again

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