Intimate wedding, unsure?

[lorribell]

Me and DP want to have an intimate wedding , think 10-15 people. However I really want to wear a proper wedding dress and have a nice reception after just for us.

So we have came up with civil ceremony in a really expensive hotel, they can then cater for a private dinner for us after. Full use of the beautiful grounds only it has to be on a weekday so we are thinking a Thursday.

We don't want a big wedding because it would stress me out to much and I want to actually enjoy and pay for people who I truly enjoy being with. Although I feel so envious when I see a big wedding pics or discussion. Almost like I'm under embarrassed ours will be so small incase others judge us or something. I don't know.

Does it sound ok

So do you actually want a small wedding? You sound unsure, and neither is more ok than the other - it’s your day! We had an informal day with 35 at registry office then 90 total later, and I kind of wished we’d done the size you are planning. It was too stressful and I was pregnant.

There were 10 people at my wedding (It was abroad.) Like you, I didn't want a big wedding and neither did my DH. It was perfect. Your wedding plan sounds lovely, but you have

Oops. To be sure!

I would have a loved a big wedding but my family live far and wide and I will be far to worried about people not able to go after putting a deposit down somewhere.

My DM put me off the idea because she said why would you invite and pay for loads of people to your wedding that you haven't seen or spoke to for years just because they are family and she's right really.

It sounds lovely.

Have the wedding you want, not the one you think others will approve of.

We had a small wedding - 20 people total, in a venue that was very meaningful to us, reception at the venue, followed by a sit-down meal at a gorgeous restaurant that we bussed every one over to. It was perfect for us.

You can still wear a wedding dress. Who cares if people judge? Your wedding, your choice. If you prefer a small wedding then that’s what you should do. You’ll be the one to look back on it, hopefully fondly. Do it exactly as you choose.

Although having just read your last post, it doesn’t sound like what you want.

incase others judge us

It's no fun, planning a wedding or living your life while worrying about what people think.

What do you and your STBDH want?

Do that

It sounds lovely, congratulations.

Me and DP want to go with a smaller wedding I just need to stop over thinking everything and needed a little reassurance

Why can't you wear the wedding dress of your dreams? The size of your wedding is irrelevant. You can wear anything you want! You can have an intimate wedding and still have it be as fabulous as you want.

Thank you I definitely will

God I wish I'd had a smaller wedding! Let me parents talk me into.200 guests. They did pay tho. Looking back I wish I had stuck to my guns, it was stressful, unnecessary and I was so busy trying to talk to everyone, I spoke to noone!

We had 40 guests and even that was too big in hindsight. I spent the day trying to get around to everyone, didn't like being the centre of attention and found it stressful. And a few years down the line my wedding day just doesn’t seem important, it was lovely but we’re married, we’re happy.

I could've written this OP. My fiance and I don't have many friends so our guests would be mainly family. My family is large but most of them wouldn't come and DF family is small. So we think we'll go for a small wedding, 22 people including us and my frail Nanna who might not make it. I feel abit weird about wearing a big wedding dress but it's what I want so I know I shouldn't. I kind of want abit of an evening do as well but with 20 people, what's the point? We could invite 50 people total and have a bigger wedding but then I really don't think they'll come. Oh decisions :(