Etiquette for wedding abroad

[barbiegrl]

So I'm going to my cousins wedding,and I have to travel abroad-hubby couldn't get time off work,and I can't take my ds as he is going to be sitting exams shortly but I will go with my dd. The couple have asked for money as they have been living together for a couple of years now so my question is how much do you think I should give (bearing in mind I have shelled out for plane tickets, and a hotel stay)

I think it's really cheeky that they've asked for money at all
Like you said, you're already spending money on flights and a hotel (not to mention all the food and such you'll have to buy once you're out there).

Personally, I wouldn't wanna give them any money, just a card. And if they ask why, you can break down all the costs you've had to spend just to attend their wedding. However, if this is going to create unnecessary drama and you'd rather just give them some cash to keep the peace, I'd give them something between £25 - £40.

It’s definitely not expected for guests to buy a present for destination weddings. It’s literally on every etiquette article ever written about weddings.

Maybe they put it in for the odd family member or close friend. We specifically said “ no gifts” but had four presents out of our guest list of 40 odd. My parents, SIL, a friend who bought DH a personal wedding gift and my close friends who bought the wedding flowers.

So yes. Don’t bother just give them a nice card and message.

Thanks...that's kinda what I was leaning towards, but I didn't want to be the cheeky fucker that turns up empty handed! I can now carry on with no stress :)

If money is requested I give £25 and buy a token gift to wrap it with. I don't like the trend of asking for money, I do understand that people have often lived together and don't want the more traditional items. I prefer the ones where the money goes towards something specific, e.g. a holiday fund, dinner in a fancy restaurant, days out etc.

We flew out with DS and put £100 in a card for them