I want a small wedding

[Vicky2914]

Hi me an my partner have been together nearly ten years and have 2 young kids. We are getting married next year with just our kids and two witnesses then a nice meal. Then the kids want to go to haven on holiday. This has caused a bit of upset with family memebers. Am I wrong for doing it this way should i have the big wedding just to keep everyone happy.

We're getting married next year. 12 years together & 2 children later. We're having a small day wedding (26 people) then a bigger party in the eve. Neither of us wanted a big fussy wedding & my partner would have preferred to do it your way but I asked him if he expects to walk our daughters down the aisle when they're older...yes was his answer. I'm my dad's only daughter so I would feel bad for my dad to miss that experience so that is our main reason for not going away to do it. But it is your wedding so you should 100% do it how you feel most comfortable & what makes you happiest not other people :)

No you aren't wrong. Do what you want, and can afford

We were aiming for that, and the children as didn't have any then, but in the end we had parents, siblings, and most of their children. Just went to a local pub and had drinks and snacks. Worked very well.

We are eloping in 6 weeks to get married by the side of a river. Just us four dogs and two witnesses off Mumsnet who I've never met. Just perfect. We are getting married for us, not a party where great uncle Tom's neighbor's wife's hairdressers cousin is upset shes not invited. 😉

We didn't tell anyone we were getting married except for the people that were coming. My parents, sibling and his family, his parents and his siblings. Oh, I told my Grandma because she couldn't have travelled for it anyway and I knew she'd get a kick out of "being in the know".

We were more interested in being married than having a wedding so it was find for us. Also I have about a squillion cousins so there have been many weddings over the years. I am sure some people were relieved not to have to fork out for another one.

We had 10 at our wedding. Went for lunch at an amazing restaurant afterwards. Great day.

What some friends of ours did to keep the peace was they had their day and then two months later they held a bbq, every one dressed up (she wore her dress and he wore his suit) and everyone had a nice time.

Another friend just rode out the upset of her family, because she didn't want any fuss at all.

It's your day, you do exactly what you want.

Congratulations OP

Thanks everyone. I could have the big wedding if I wanted to but its just not me. I would rather spend the money making memories with my partner and kids

Your wedding, you decide!