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Coach home for guests?

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MissMoodyMoo · 09/04/2019 23:34

Do you HAVE to put a coach on? Would it be rude not to? It's just sooo expensive!! When did this become a thing? Why can't they just arrange a lift considering they at least a years notice? Did anyone not put one on? Every wedding for the last 5 years I've been to have all put a coach on at the end of the night so feeling slightly pressured into it

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Hollowvictory · 09/04/2019 23:38

Well if every wedding you've been to in 5 years has done it, it would suggest that it is a 'thing' in your circles. Does not mean you have to do it. How far is the venue from the main hub for guests. How much are taxis and are there any in the neighbourhood.

RoseAndRose · 09/04/2019 23:39

If you're not holding your reception in a place in a town with plenty of accommodation, or with plentiful taxis to pick up from a place outside a town, then yes, you probably do need to be able to help your guests get back to the places they are likely to be staying.

Expressedways · 09/04/2019 23:59

It would be considerate if your venue has no accommodation, is very rural and taxis aren’t easy to come by. And that’s only if most of your guests will be going back to a central hub e.g. a hotel you’re recommending. Personally I’ve been to tons of weddings that have provided transport from the church to the reception but not a single one that’s provided transport home. I think it depends on what type of wedding your having and if it’s feasible for your guests to sort themselves out.

ooooohbetty · 10/04/2019 00:11

If you've chosen to have a wedding in the back of beyond where everyone is going to have to get taxis there and back that will cost a lot of money then you should put a coach on.

Mummyme87 · 10/04/2019 06:20

I have been to a fair amount of weddings in the last few years and botnonce has there been a coach put on. We are not doing that. We have provided a list of taxis which will need to be booked in advance

thecatsthecats · 11/04/2019 11:44

We would have put one on for certain venues. Remember, a smoothly run wedding day is a big, BIG part of how much you'll enjoy it.

Different issue, but one of my friends chose to economise massively on food. Ceremony at 12pm sharp, even if you were close, you'd have to travel a bit, not clear on gap before reception, no welcome nibbles, only sweets on table as a 'starter'/favour, mains were massively delayed, pudding was the cake - but not nearly enough to go around. Bride was massively, massively stressed - because her guests were hungry and unhappy.

There are two weddings where the events were very samey, so all I really remember of them is the pain in the arse of getting taxis afterwards. And you really have to check the taxis are reliable! It's all very well providing a list, if the list is of one man bands who will tell you it will be an hour...

BackforGood · 18/04/2019 22:26

Well, I have NEVER been to a wedding where this has happened, so if EVERY wedding you've been to in the last 5 years has had this then it must be a "thing" in your circle.
Does everyone hold their Receptions in out of the way places, with no taxis and no accommodation ? Confused

At weddings (and other types of party) I've been to, people want to leave at different times. Then (and surely this is the case at all weddings) all the guests live in different places. What happens ? Do you do a couple of dozen different drop offs - which must take for ever - or does everyone get dropped off at the Church or in the Town Centre or something, in which case they would still then have to make arrangements to get home?

stucknoue · 18/04/2019 22:31

It depends on location. When the venue is isolated and most people have to return to the nearest city yes it's a courtesy. If the wedding is in a central place or the venue have extensive reasonable accommodation then no need

EdtheBear · 18/04/2019 22:49

The first wedding I was ever at (30 years ago) was held in the city 15 miles from the bride's home town.
Buses were laid on for day and evening guests and a bus to bring people home.
So it's certainly not a new thing and I'd say it's fairly standard if you are having a wedding out-with where the majority of the guests are from. Do one or two pick ups and same with drop offs. Guests can get a local taxi to / from drop off point.

DHs family is fairly scattered and spreadout. My family is pretty much all with in a square mile.
It did cause a issue / discussion. My family were expecting a bus, DH argued why are we paying for transport for some guests and not others Confused

Onemorefortheroad · 24/04/2019 21:23

Ours is 5 miles out of town but every wedding we have been at (and friends have said same) is that when there have been buses on, that they end up mor even half full as some people leave earlier via taxi or a lift, and some stay on later? So we aren't going to bother.

Goposie · 24/04/2019 21:29

Would block booking several people carriers be cheaper as taxis tend to charge per trip rather than per day like coaches

Burlea · 24/04/2019 21:34

We married nearly 40 years ago and PIL put a coach on for there side of the family as it was 10 miles away from the area they all lived. My family could all walk as it was so close.

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