Lost too much weight

[KatyaZamolodchikova]

I bought my wedding dress about a year ago, maybe a bit longer off the peg. I wasn’t planning on losing any weight in particular and it pretty much fit. However, I’ve been for a fitting today to be told it barely fits. It will look fine, but it’s not how it’s designed to fit. The modesty panel is 4in over where it’s supposed to fasten and the corset back touches in the middle. It doesn’t look awful and I’m ok with it.

She’s told me in no uncertain terms not to lose any more weight or it won’t fit at all. Realistically I could do with losing another half stone, and have already lost a stone in 6 weeks and a total of two stone since I bought the dress. It’s five weeks to the wedding. I’m feeling stressed because I don’t want to stay at the weight I’m at when I’ve been doing so well but I’m also really worried about the dress not fitting. I have no clue how to maintain my weight without losing or gaining.

I know it’s a nice problem to have to have lost weight but it feels really stressful at the moment. I think I just needed a vent, as I feel weird telling people irl.

Well, it’s a nice problem to have! Can’t you just have it altered to fit?

In terms of weight maintaining - it’s just about calories intake, if you’re currently losing just increase your calories slightly and weigh yourself regularly to see what the right level for maintenance is.

Do you have to wear that dress though? There are millions and millions out there. Could you not find a smaller version in a smaller size and sell the original? You can get excellent dresses in the high street new for less than £100.
You have done an amazing job losing weight and you want to lose more. I’d go for it to be honest.Sod the dress.

Are you sure you couldn't have it altered or sell it and buy a new one?

When I bought my wedding dress there were no issues at all getting it made smaller, the lady said it was only a problem if I went up a size.

Are you sure you can't get it altered? My dress was a 14 and altered down to a small 10. It looked great.
It did cost about £300 in alteration fees though.

Thank you all. A new dress is a possibility but I really love the one I have. I think part of the issue is DP has lost a lot of weight too, and as silly as it sounds I’m really worried about looking like a heifer next to him in the photos

It’s being taken in two sizes, but because of all the structure and boning she said she’ll struggle to take it in any more. I guess I need to make some decisions about what’s more important.

I feel like it’s such a stupid thing to be upset over.

Is the weight you are aiming for totally sustainable?? In your heart of hearts?? After maybe kids etc?? Do you ever yo yo with your weight?

I ask because there is a peculiar downside of looking slim in the photos - which is hating your photos when you're 3 years down the line and a stone heavier as it's a constant reminder of how much prettier you used to be and how fat you are now.

Not me personally - but 2 friends who are serial dieters both lost loads for their weddings, have never been that size since, and hate the pics as a result! Bizarre but true.

So perhaps it's better to stay at a more 'normal' weight for you?

Can I ask how you've lost the weight OP? I have 4 months to my wedding and the opposite that I need to lose 2 stone to fit in my dress! Panic stations!

beaveringaways we can do a swap!!

I lost about a stone just eating less over quite a few months, cutting out snacks, no biscuits, things like that. Then I joined SlimmingWorld about six weeks ago and was just really strict in sticking to it, and lost another stone. For me it was planning my meals better and ditching convinience stuff for actually cooking.

I do think it’s sustainable, as once I feel like I’ve changed my thought process as well as my eating habits and am making better choices. It was laziness and complacency that got me to the weight I was and I hope that I’ve learned a lesson. I don’t yo-yo, I just found myself at nearly 13st (I’m 5’5) and used the wedding as motivation to make some changes. I definitely don’t want to go back there.

beaveringaways that is a mission! I used to be a 16. I dropped two stone over a year, got engaged and lost another half before the wedding ending up as a 12. ( Blood Sugar diet and 30 day shred).
I saw my dress in the U.K. but ended up buying it from the States as it was half the price. I thought US sizing was two sizes different but apparently not. So my size 8 dress was a 10. Gulp.
It was a real worry being a zip up, especially as I have a broad back and the dress needed someone with no rib cage. Took 3 bridesmaids to get me in and luckily looked great - no back fat.
Blood Sugar diet really shifts the fat around your middle which may help if that’s your problem area. Maybe try for 2 weeks. You should go down a size. If you can’t stick to it then Slimming World which is a bit slower.
However I would recommend you having a plan B. It’s a proper stressor having to change shape and not recommended if you emotionally eat.

Get another dress which fits properly - you’ll feel sooo much more comfortable (and it might even look better).

Sell your current one!

I know this sounds callous, but wedding dresses look the same after no.5 (I got so confused when looking for mine). People will only remember how beautiful you LOOK - not specifically what you were WEARING.

A wedding is a garment you wear for 12-16 hours. This is what I told myself when whenever I got stressed about ‘the dress’ 😉

(I also lost a lot of weight, changed my mind and ended up getting a sample sale dress, lured buy the price which I was REALLY unsure about, but then actually loved on the day itself)!

My friend also had ‘2 dresses, as she changed her mind about the first! It’s okay to change!