lengthy post Hi, so I’m in need of some advice/ help. Basically I’m getting married and my bridesmaids who I’ve been close with for 10 years+ 3 of them have started ignoring me. I’ve paid for absolutely everything for them down to the clothing, food, Jewelery , flowers, hair and makeup etc, I have 8 bridesmaid and have spend more than £300 each on them. They got to pick their own dresses and shoes because I didn’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable on the day. So fast forward dresses have been purchased but are in need of some alterations Which they knew when I bought them (which also I’m paying for) all 3 have ignored my questions for 4 months and none of them are prepared to try them on to make sure their right before the big day, ignoring my phone calls and texts, making up excuses all the time and when they do call they avoid the question about when their going to try them (I have been working around everyone’s working patterns too) It’s got to the point now the seamstress has said she won’t have time to alter them if needed by the wedding. I’ve planned the whole thing myself and paid for everything the only thing I’ve ever asked of my bridesmaids is to try their shoes and dresses on to make sure they fit. They also get to tell the hair and makeup artist what they would like (I’m honestly not fussed aslong as their comfortable). I feel as if they have no respect for me as a friend especially the amount of money it’s cost me and I didn’t even get a ‘thankyou’ off 2 of them. After this one of the girls who ignored me then asked me if her new guy she’d been dating for 2 weeks could come along, I explained everything was paid for and I couldn’t afford a spare seat at its £90 a head (for all day) she then started getting a bit funny with me telling me everyone else partner was going (they’ve been together years) and told me she wasn’t happy I couldn’t spare another £90 for him. Baring in mind I have no idea who he is and it’s my special day?! Sorry for the long post I just don’t know whether I’m getting overwhelmed with everything or whether their just being idiots! My hubby to be has told me ditch them as bridesmaids and is quite furious at the moment as he says I’ve just chucked money down the drain . I have tried talking to them but they have a no care attitude which isn’t like them usually . Help please