Turning down a wedding invite?

[Mu19899]

Hi, need your advice

A school friend has invited me to her wedding this July. I’m single and she hasn’t given me a plus one. Not a huge deal because there will be other school friends there. Problem is, they are all coupled up and they have already sorted accommodation for the wedding. The wedding is a two hour drive for me (as this particular friend moved away some years ago)

We aren’t really close, I see her about twice a year.

Is it fair for me to reject based on cost?

Weddings + being single = hard :(

YANBU

I have friends I consider close who I only see once or twice a year at most. I wouldn't even think about not going to their wedding, if I were free.

Could you ask the hosts (I assume the couple, but maybe their parents if it's traditional) if they know anyone who could put you up for the night?

I'd drive to the wedding and drive home again afterwards.

Thanks all.

Annandale: I know what you mean, ‘close’ is hard to define sometimes. Put it this way, we only see each other in a group (don’t think we’ve ever done things just us two, not even back in school, we knocked round in same circle though) twice a year. She’s not somebody I would ever phone for a chat. We speak in our group message and maybe very occasionally I would message her separately. I could ask if someone could put me up I guess

Regarding driving there and back: possible. However I just did look at the map and I miscalculated - it’s nearly a 3 hour drive so worse than I thought!

Just decide whether you really want to go or not and you have 6 months to save up the single room supplement ( or Airbnb may be cheaper). I'm a bit flakey and probably wouldn't go ( I cannot be arsed with putting myself out but that says more about me!).

YANBU but don’t say it’s based on cost. Just say unfortunately you can’t make it.