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Critique my wedding pweese

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Popsicle434544 · 24/01/2019 14:31

Jumping on band wagon here, seen a couple of other brides do this.

Second guessing myself in regards to our wedding.

Church ceremony at 4pm for 45 mins, then on to golf club (5mins down road)
On arrival we have pimms and soft drinks for guest's and sharing platteres on tables (picky bits) whilst we have our photo's.
Dj will be playing background music.
6.30 cutting of cake and speeches and we will provide glass champagne.
7pm evening guests arrive.
7.30 first dance. And music gets started.
8.30 bbq with lots of sides
Shortly after that lay out wedding cake and krispy kremes for who prefers them.
We have a photo booth and outside giant garden games for kids.
We are also putting some money behind bar hopefully...

Xx

OP posts:
BruceAndNosh · 24/01/2019 14:35

My only suggestion is not to use the word pweese on your gift list / begging for money poem

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Popsicle434544 · 24/01/2019 14:36

Grin rest assured no begging poem

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CallMeSirShotsFired · 24/01/2019 14:36

I'm not a wedding expert AT ALL, but if your evening guests are arriving at 7pm, it seems a little churlish to cut the cake only 30mins before, without them there too. But not then putting it out till 8.30-9? Does it just sit in a back room going stale and feeling left out till then?

I further assume this is a summer wedding, hence the Pimm's and garden games?

CallMeSirShotsFired · 24/01/2019 14:38

I would also - with all politeness - suggest that if you have any written orders of service, table decs etc, you get someone with impeccable spelling and punctuation to proofread them.

But aside from that, do what makes you happy, not what a bunch of strangers on the internet think.

WereYouHareWhenIWasFox · 24/01/2019 14:39

I would be hungry, and pretty surprised there was not an open bar.

CoffeeTableBook · 24/01/2019 14:41

So no proper food?

CoffeeTableBook · 24/01/2019 14:41

@CallMeSirShotsFired I thought that too but didn't want to say!

Stinkytoe · 24/01/2019 14:43

Is there no proper meal for the day guests?

LovingLola · 24/01/2019 14:43

Will you be making it clear to your guests that they will need to eat before arriving at your ceremony?
Picky bits, alcohol, cake and donuts won’t be very filling ...

Honeyroar · 24/01/2019 14:43

Make sure your daytime guests know there isn't a sit down meal, and make sure you have a lot of "picky bits" (whatever they are). I once went to a wedding with similar timings to that, and what with getting ready and travelling we'd not really eaten since lunchtime. We didn't have many of the canapés being handed round during photos because we thought there would be a sit down meal (there was a table plan up on view). It turned out to be a hot buffet type meal about 8.30, by which time people were ravenous and getting really fed up. To make matters worse, there wasn't much food. People actually started leaving at 9/10pm. If we'd known there wouldn't have been food until later on we'd have had a huge lunch, but we didn't as we thought we'd be getting a wedding breakfast..

Racecardriver · 24/01/2019 14:45

8:30 seems way too late to eat. Also don’t understand why you are cutting the cake when you are.

Nowisthemonthofmaying · 24/01/2019 14:45

But the day guests don't need a separate meal - the ceremony's at 4, they get snacks and then the bbq is the main meal at 8, I'm presuming? I think if the BBQ is big enough then that should be enough food for everyone. Most people will eat lunch beforehand, surely.

OP it sounds OK to me - not too much hanging around and drinks/nibbles while you do photos is a good idea!

Redglitter · 24/01/2019 14:48

Why are you having day guests and evening guests when there's no meal. Why not just invite everyone to the whole thing.

CatToddlerUprising · 24/01/2019 14:49

Can you move the evening guests to 6.30 and then they can see the speeches, cutting of the cake. And then serve the bbq for 7.30?

Tobuyornot99 · 24/01/2019 14:49

Too long without food for me. Some people may travel for an hour or so to get to the church, and realistically eat til 9.30 if the bbq gets swamped with hungry guests.
Can I ask why not just invite everyone to the church and full day? It's not as though it's a money thing surely?

Aventurine · 24/01/2019 14:49

It sounds good but as you are eating pretty late I'd let guests know that beforehand so they know to have a big lunch before they come

Cuppaand2biscuits · 24/01/2019 14:50

If you've got children coming I'd make sure parents know to bring snacks. Unless you are serving child friendly picky bits. 8.30pm is late to wait for food if people haven't eaten since 12.
Also older people seem to want to eat much earlier than 8.30pm.

IwillrunIwillfly · 24/01/2019 14:51

I think it sounds lovely and relaxed. As long as the sharing platters have plenty of food in them then I don't think people will be hungry, and there's a bbq not long after so I don't think people would be hungry. I see on here people mentioning open bars but I've never been to a wedding with one or expected it! The only thing I would say is half an hour will be very tight to do the cake cutting and speeches, and the last thing you want is to keep evening guests waiting. How about doing speeches at 6, then have time to chat to guests after and be ready to welcome your evening guests, then cut the cake just before the first dance so that your evening guests get to be a part of it too?

CMOTDibbler · 24/01/2019 14:51

TBH, I'd wonder why you are having separate evening guests with a 4pm service and no meal until after the evening guests arrive.

Just have everyone the same, do the speeches and champagne at 6, then cut the cake just before the bbq.

Make sure your sharing platters cater for everyone - I've been to so many things where the veggies, dairy and gluten free people look sadly at the canape stage as theres either nothing to eat or they have to fight for the one thing they can have.

clary · 24/01/2019 14:51

I would just invite everyone to the whole thing, it's not as though you are having a big £££ meal in the afternoon. Otherwise you risk if overrunning (eg if you decide to have pix at the church) and the evening guests arriving in the middle of the speeches.

tierraJ · 24/01/2019 14:53

If I was a guest I'd have to take snacks in my handbag! Why not have the bbq earlier?

Honeyroar · 24/01/2019 14:56

I don't actually see the point of having day/evening guests if it's a 4pm ceremony and there's no sit down meal. Why not just have everyone there for the whole thing? That's usually the reason for having a late wedding..

I think the whole thing would work better if the BBQ was at 6.30 and was followed by cake cutting and first dance. Otherwise, aside from the fact that it's nearly 5 hours until people eat, it interrupts the music and party as soon as it's got going.

inchoccyheaven · 24/01/2019 14:56

I think it would depend on how much there was on the sharing platters for day guests as I think 8.30/9 is too late for them to eat.

We had 4pm ceremony followed by drinks and some photos while a magician kept them occupied.
We had a buffet about 5.30pm and more photos while people relaxed at the tables and the magician went round each table to entertain.

We did thank yous and cut the cake about 7.30 followed by first dance when the few evening guests had arrived.

The cake, a chocolate fountain and sweetie cart were then available for rest of the night for anyone still hungry. No separate buffet for evening.

inchoccyheaven · 24/01/2019 14:59

The only evening guests we had were work colleagues of dw. Which was open invite to them as too many to invite all day.

SazCat · 24/01/2019 15:01

Well it sounds great to me, but I had similar timings.

We had registry office service at 4pm then went on to a small hotel for prosecco and canapes - around 25 guests. We did speeches at 6 ish. Did wait til evening guests arrived at 7.30 to cut the cake and do the first dance though. Evening food was tapas style served throughout the night.

I don't think anyone was over hungry, we had many comments as to what a nice afternoon/evening it was. We didn't invite any children not sure if that makes a difference?

PP mentioned they'd be surprised at no open bar... I have only been to one wedding which had an open bar (limited 2 hour) so I really don't think it is the norm! I think most people expect to buy their own drinks.