Oh doesn't want to get involved in detail but.....

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My OH hates arranging anything. In fact he avoids making any sort of arrangements at all. He's told me....go arrange the wedding. So I have. Now he's making comments about the arrangements.....he has form for this. When we moved he told me to go find a house....so I did and we moved. Now he keeps asking why we didn't consider a different area. Same with kids schools.....etc etc....how do I avoid killing him before the big day???

Don't marry someone who doesn't want to make joint decisions with you as a team. Do you want this nonsense for the rest of your life?!

Shox +1 on that.

My dh kind of tried this... said he wasn't fussed about details but then complained about my choices. I told him he couldn't have it both ways! Either he put the effort into researching choices and helping make the decisions, or he shut up and let me do it...

Don't marry someone who doesn't respect your opinion and undermines your decisions. Simples.

I wouldn’t put up with that!

He essentially doesn’t want to do any of the graft but wants to call the shots.

Won’t take on adult responsibilities but thinks he has a right to complain about the decisions you make because of this?
What pp’s said- why are you marrying this person? Lazy, disrespectful and rude. He’s telling you what he is (an arse) - please listen.

He let you choose a house without input?

Sweet Jesus Christ, don't marry him. I thought my husband could be a bit of a wet sponge about these things, but that is just insane.

Aah, he's ok. We both have our strengths. Making arrangements is not his.

• I was being a bit light-hearted with the original post. We are 13 years and 3 kids together....we are getting married. Lol. I'm a bit too far involved to be deciding he's not the one now.

I'd run every decision past him, if he can't be arsed at least he's aware and then has no comeback.

@knackeredmommy but what if he disagrees with what I choose. 😂🤣 I won't like that!!! (Most important thing for him is food and we are tasting that together.)

My DH tried this - I would ask him to arrange the next holiday all by himself so he can see the work effort that goes into a holiday

I would just be blunt. You specifically asked me to chose and you didn't take any responsibility or make any effort- so I am not even listening

... repeat repeat repeat

@GreenTulips that's what I'm doing with his idea we go away next Christmas. - who actually wants to spend the extra cash to go away over Xmas? (I love Xmas, he hates it. Our son has his bday Xmas Eve - so lots going on too....) I know if he doesn't find a holiday and book soon the price will be crazy and choice won't be there....we are family of 5 which limits option we can afford . But hey....his decision.