5 year vow renewal? Opinions?!

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So a bit of background.. my and my hubby have been together coming 6 years, married for 3.. two gorgeous children together, however our big day was slightly spoilt by many things and I almost feel uncomfortable showing new friends the photos. We had miserable guests, family rows and myself as a heavily pregnant bride- as if my hormones weren’t high enough! Why didn’t we change the date back then? I didn’t believe being pregnant would affect the day as much as it did. The happiest day of my life and I was miserable! Not with my relationship, for some reason I just felt and looked glum! I spoiled all of the photos with a fake pre post natal depressive smile!!
My hubby talks all the time about renewing our vows at 5 years, so I can have my dream dress - which I bought for my actual wedding before finding out rather late that we was expecting!!! And so that our little boy will also get to cherish the memory. Our relationship has been rocky but strong and I’m proud to think that we will have a lifetime together!
Am I mad? Or is this realistic?

A lot of people will assume someone has cheated.

^ yup. Which I think is a shame really, but that’s how it is

I think 5 years is too soon for vow renewal, I’d assume that something had gone wrong, probably infidelity.

5 years is too soon. Most people would think something has happened.

I think I would probably aim for 10 year renewal rather than a 5 year one , 5 years of marriage isn't really that long

Have a party, wear the dress. But no vow renewal. They were made for life, surely?

Whatever floats your boat.

But I fail to see the point.

Have a big lovely party or a special holiday. Whatever else happened on the day, you made your wedding vows that day and they’re for life.

Are you imagining a simple ceremony just you two and DS or a big pretend wedding with guests and cake and things?

Renewals after five years would make me roll my eyes, sorry. I'd assume that:
Somebody had cheated
Or
The couple were grabby and wanted a second lot of gifts
Or
One or both were being a bit attention seeking.

Sorry about your real wedding day but sadly you won't turn back the clock by doing it again so soon.

The only vow renewals I’ve known have been because somebody has cheated, echoing PPs thoughts.

Maybe have a 10th wedding anniversary party instead?

5 years seems very quick to renew vows.

How about having a great holiday instead? Somewhere you can have lots of beautiful photos taken. It’d be cheaper too!

From the OP
Our relationship has been rocky

This is the bit people will focus on - they are lifetime vows, no need to renew after 5 years especially if it's just for the photos!

Oh goodness no fortunately for us no one has cheated, and Rocky I meant a financial struggle and juggling work with children with family’s who don’t see eye to eye!

Our vows are strong and will be forever, we just wanted a more intimate moment including our children and taking away all of the drama from our big day!
I wasn’t looking for a big grand day, just wanted to know if it was too soon to do after only 5 years!
Thank you all x