Help with first dance

[PrincessDaff]

Hi everyone

Me and my dp are getting married next year but we cant decide on a song for our first dance. We both love one song that means alot to us but the problem is the song is very obscure and 99.9% of the guests will never have heard it and I dont want everyone stood around wondering what the song is. The words are lovely and very fitting to us but I am worried that people will not notice the words if its the first time they have heard it.

I know this isnt a big issue and most wedding guests dont really care but I would like some advice. Would we be better picking a song that more people know or should we stick to our original song. Thank you

I'd stick with the song that means a lot to you both. It's your day :)
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Could you use the song somewhere else during the day, maybe when signing the register?

But if it’s perfect for you then have it as your first dance. Guests will just smile and enjoy seeing you guys happy no matter what song you are dancing to.

In my experience the first dance goes like this:

first half: you two swirl around, everyone coos and takes pictures and whistles / claps.

second half: bridal party awkwardly shuffle on to join you.

It will follow this formula whether your guests recognise the song or not :) If any other song on the set-list for the evening is obscure you will ensure an empty dancefloor, but for your first dance, you could play a himalayan bell chiming song and it would be a 'first dance', so don't sweat it.

It's your wedding, your perfect day so you should choose a song that means for you because it's your song and every time you will hear that song you will remember about your first dance like wife and husband

Use the song that means something to you both. You're lucky to have one, my fiance and I don't have a song and it's a challenge to find one we like

We're thinking of opting for a really obscure song that has no fitting lyrics (it's about a drug trip) but we adore the band, it's a lovely melody, only maybe 2 of the guests would know it (Best Man and Usher) and it is quite meaningful ("hold me up while I screw my head on" are some of the lyrics and my DP has definitely held me up in bad times of depression). I wouldn't want an unmeaningful song as the first dance.
Our only other option is Common People as it was the first song we danced to lol

I would use your song. I've been to a few weddings and not known the song, but was just happy to watch the bride and groom take their first dance. If the song has meaning for you and your 'husband to be', then that is what is most important.