AIBU for being disappointed I'm not a bridesmaid at my best friends wedding?

[jade19]

To keep it short and sweet my best friend is getting married in 2 years time. She has recently asked people to be her bridesmaids and I wasn't asked.
I know it is her wedding and she can choose who she wants, and when it was previously mentioned about me being a bridesmaid, it was made clear that she wasn't 100% sure who was choosing.
But I can't help but feel a little bit disappointed, but on the other hand I feel like I have absolutely no right.
What I'm really asking is would you guys also be a little bit disappointed?

I'm surprised people would expect to be asked to be BM by the groom's sister -- is this an English thing? Where I'm from, bridesmaids are very much the bride's friends and family.

I had all youngsters - 3 bms and 1 page boy aged 5, 8, 12 and 15. All related to either me or DH.

Avoids all hurt feelings so long as you don't have a multitude of neices and nephews.

I can totally understand you being hurt, OP, as by choosing 2 other friends she seems to be publicly stating you are NOT her best friend.

My dd has no sisters but tons of friends. Some from school/ college/ work/ hobbies. She makes close friends. When she picks bridesmaids l know she will not think any less of those she doesn't pick as she genuinely loves them all. But she would look wierd with too many. Just be glad you are free to forget about the wedding and enjoy the big day without any drama in between. You are no less a friend.

Cuban I had my future SIL as I thought it was a nice way to integrate the two families. If I had a brother and he got on well with my (now) DH it would've been nice if he was an usher, maybe. But not expected on either side.