Asking another bridesmaid later than the rest

[eirrah]

I have already asked two of my closest friends to be my bridesmaid and maid of honour. The wedding isn’t for another 2 years. However, I have got really close to my boyfriends best mans wife recently since I asked my friends and we have become really good friends. She will be coming to the wedding anyway but I’d love her to be my bridesmaid. I only didn’t ask her before as we weren’t really as close as we are now!

I have a gift for her to ask but just wondering if anyone had any poems or any other wording I could put into a card for her as it’s later than the rest and she knows this but I want her to know it doesn’t mean any less? Or if anyone has had similar experiences:)

Thanks x

I think she'll be delighted to be asked!

If you've only just got to know her well I don't think she'll mind being asked later than the others, because it will be obvious that she's not been overlooked.

I'd let the other two know first, though, and explain that it's important to you that the best man's GF feels part of things, just so they don't feel displaced.

Your wedding is two years away! I would be very careful asking friends’ partners. If Best Man and she broke up it would be awkward. Ask her nearer time.

”just wondering if anyone had any poems or any other wording I could put into a card for her as it’s later than the rest and she knows this but I want her to know it doesn’t mean any less?”

Why don’t you just say that to her? Why a poem?

Sounds extremely cringe

Agree with the others, it's fine to ask her now but surely a heartfelt/simple conversation where you tell her in your own words how much you value her friendship and would appreciate her support on your big day would be much more meaningful than a poem a random MNer comes up with? Also if it was me I would think a card and a gift and a poem was a bit OTT and it might make me question why I wasn't asked before more and not less, if you see what I mean? I know you are trying to do a nice thing for her but I think it's nice enough that you want her to be your bridesmaid without adding anything else

My friend just got me drunk at new year and asked me in a heart to heart in the kitchen. We weren’t close when she started planning but became close and I’d joined in all her excitement about plans. I think I’d have cringed my skin off if she’d presented me with a poem. It would mean so much more if you just say what you said here scout feeling your friendship has grown closer and you’d love her to be bm.

OP, if you haven't asked her already I strongly recommend waiting until nearer the time. So much can change in 2 years and, even though you are close to her now and can't imagine anything going wrong, things happen and it would be much more awkward to have to tell her you no longer want her as a BM because you've drifted apart. (There are many threads about this on MN!)

There's no harm in waiting another year before asking her. I know it's exciting but I very much doubt you'll be doing any planning and organising over the next 12 months that would require BM input.

For what it's worth, I'd be delighted to be asked even if much later than the others.