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Wedding favours Yes or No

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Laineymc7 · 08/08/2018 07:50

Hi all
I was wondering what you think of wedding favours? Are they still a thing? Would you expect them at a wedding?
Also if you did have them what did you have? Also if you were a wedding guest what would you like to receive? Or would you not be bothered.
Thank you x

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Lentilbaby · 08/08/2018 08:46

Agree some favours can be a waste of time and money. Ours were a foodie gift and people still let us know when they ate it and with what. Some close friends and family have just kept hold of it as the packaging was lovely.

PrincessDaff · 08/08/2018 08:49

We are getting married next year and are not going to have them, we are on a budget.

One of my friends gave everyone a Yankee candle and almost half of them were left behind at the venue! They must have cost her a fortune. Another of my friends got married on the day of the Aintree grand national so put a £1 bet on a random horse for everyone there, that did go down well.

musicalxo · 08/08/2018 08:53

No, unless the favour is edible. Anything with names/monograms are a big no for me.

itallhappensforareason · 08/08/2018 08:54

I like them but don't think there is any need to go too OTT. We had sweetie jars for ours. We had a pastel colour scheme so chose pastel coloured sweeties, and all the jars I used were recycled baby food jars so they didn't cost a lot to make at all. I ordered some stickers off Etsy to put on them saying "love is sweet enjoy our treat".

itallhappensforareason · 08/08/2018 08:55

Also forgot to add we tied everyone's names round them so they also doubled up as place names.

Violet18 · 08/08/2018 08:59

We had cancer research pin badge favours, which went down well with our guests. There was a choice of pins and they came with personalised tent cards which the pins attached too.

Violet18 · 08/08/2018 08:59

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Lonecatwithkitten · 08/08/2018 09:05

I am normally a no favours person, but we are getting married close to Christmas next year and I am loving the idea of a cracker. We have a big mix of guests and I could see a good cracker as being a nice ice breaker at the table.

FacelikeaBagofHammers · 08/08/2018 09:09

I hate wedding favours. Just a waste of money and more useless plastic for landfill.

If you HAVE to do favours, some sweets or a charity donation, but tbh, I'd just leave them out entirely.

CocoLoco87 · 08/08/2018 09:11

We had little jam jars filled with sweets and they doubled up as name cards. They all got eaten! Sweets / chocolate are good. I've had a small candle before that smelt gorgeous. Been to one before where the men had miniature bottles of whisky from the local area and the ladies had sweets. I certainly wouldnt expect a favour.

BossWitch · 08/08/2018 09:14

We did a table 'present' instead of individual favours. We'd mixed bride's side / groom's side on the tables so we wanted an ice breaker. Each table had a game that (hopefully!) matched the people on the table, so for example the table with the heaviest drinkers had a wedding drinking game! It meant people had something to do in the initial getting sat down stage, when they were unwrapping the present, and something silly to occupy them in any boring gaps between courses! Went down quite well, cost less than individual favours.

LoveInTokyo · 08/08/2018 09:30

Most weddings I've been to have had them and I know I've forgotten to take a lot of them home with me at the end of the night. Men only have their pockets and a lot of women are carrying tiny clutch bags and so things just get left on tables. We decided to spend the "favours budget" on more champagne instead.

FacelikeaBagofHammers · 08/08/2018 09:32

We did a table 'present' instead of individual favours. We'd mixed bride's side / groom's side on the tables so we wanted an ice breaker. Each table had a game that (hopefully!) matched the people on the table, so for example the table with the heaviest drinkers had a wedding drinking game!

Just for the record, this is my idea of hell. Glad it worked out for you, but sometimes there is nothing wrong with a bit of conversation without forcing the issue.

alwaysiero · 08/08/2018 09:36

We made a compilation cd of our favourite songs and pooped them in some kraft cd sleeves and left them in a basket with a little ‘help yourself’ sign. Everyone took one, people listened to them in their cars on the way home, we got asked to make loads of extra copies after the wedding and my grandparents always put it on on our anniversary. It was such a simple and cheap idea, not traditional and still being played 8 years later.

alwaysiero · 08/08/2018 09:37

Gah we did not ‘poop’ them..damn phone.

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Laineymc7 · 08/08/2018 09:40

Gosh thank you for all your reply's. I'm just going through them now. I didn't expect so many. X

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LoveInTokyo · 08/08/2018 09:43

alwaysiero I probably wouldn't do this now as CDs are already becoming a bit obsolete Confused but I love the idea!

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Laineymc7 · 08/08/2018 09:48

Thanks for all your opinions and suggestions.
The general consensus seems to be no don't bother which I'm kind of leaning towards
If favours it seems to be the food/drink variety that goes down well
It's good to know that our guests won't care if we leave out favours.
Good idea to add the money to drinks for guests.

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Laineymc7 · 08/08/2018 09:50

"pooped them on" that made me laugh

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Pigletthedog · 08/08/2018 09:57

My wedding was a few years ago. We had cupcakes and a giant cupcake as our wedding cake.

I also put a single cupcake in a clear box with the name label on everyone's plate so doubled up as place setting and favour. Seemed to work well.

Better (and probably lasted longer) than the marriage in fact Grin

LoveInTokyo · 08/08/2018 10:08

Some friends of mine did little cardboard pots of popcorn which went down well. Something to nibble on during the speeches.

FoxyBoxter · 08/08/2018 15:27

Went to a wedding where the bride and groom had paid for some gorgeous napkin rings for each place setting and in the groom's speech he let everyone know that a napkin ring for each guest should be taken home with the idea that couples would use them on their own anniversaries...lovely idea.

At our wedding each female guest had a single rose (gift wrapped) which matched my bouquet and the groom's button hole) at their place setting & the ladies all took them home. Smile

StealthPolarBear · 08/08/2018 15:27

Everyone loves tradition in general, why are sugared almonds so hated

BackforGood · 08/08/2018 15:32

Another 'no' here.
So pointless.
Really don't want to have to carry "little gifts" home with me.

Mummyme87 · 08/08/2018 20:26

I like a favour.. 🤷🏼‍♀️ We are doing charity pins for the neonatal unit charity at my work and the same unit where DS1 was for the first two weeks of his life 👍

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