Hen night etiquette

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What's the done thing for hen nights? Can you invite people who are not invited to the wedding? The wedding is abroad. Large wedding but only the closest friends are invited

Generally you wouldn’t invite anyone who wasn’t invited to the wedding. But it would be fine to invite people who were invited to the wedding but couldn’t attend due to it being abroad. Poor form to invite people who just weren’t invited at all.

Thank you. That was my thought as well. I'm the BM and this is my first time organising this

Isn't it up to the bride at the end of the day?

If she wants to invite people who aren't invited to the wedding due to it being abroad, I think that's probably OK as long as she has a chat to them personally and makes it clear that it's just due to the circumstances of the wedding being abroad and she wants to be able to share some part of her wedding celebrations with more of her friends.

What's not on, IMO, is having a big traditional wedding where you live with loads of your friends invited, and then inviting other people to the hen do who just didn't make the cut for the main event. (Especially if you invite them to the hen do without making it clear that they're not on the wedding guest list.)

Isn't it up to the bride at the end of the day?

Yes, but as the bride is as clueless as me, she asked me to try to find out🙂

Thanks everybody. We've decided not to mention it to anyone who is not invited. If the wedding was in UK, they would be the typical evening guests, but as it is on our home country, we don't have this tradition. Best not to mention it at all.

I went to my Dads wifes hen do... their wedding wasn't abroad though it was in the UK.

That felt great, going to the hen do but not actually being invited to my Dads wedding 😂

I realise this isn't a valuable contribution I just wanted to moan.

I wouldn't go to a hen do if I wasn't invited to a wedding. Mostly because I'd feel like it was a bit CF if I was expected to subsidise the brides hen even though I wasn't 'good enough' to be invited to the main event!!

I tend to agree but again, it depends on the circumstances.

A friend of mine is getting married at Christmas in Australia (where she now lives) and will be having a hen do before Christmas for all her friends in England, who will not be going to the wedding.

Ive gone to a hen where I wasn’t invited to the wedding and did think it was weird. Hen had 2 “do’s”. A weekend away which I wasn’t invited to, and a night out where she lived (and I used to but I moved away) which I was invited to. Tbf I think she just invited me as I’m v good friends with 2 girls going and she wanted to boost numbers, don’t really consider myself friends with her. I didn’t pay anything towards it (kareoke and booze) so I wasn’t too arsed as I had a fun night and got to see my two besties. 😂