I don't actually know if this is the right thread or not but mumsnet can change it if not. Getting married next June so have time to think on it. Nearly everything organised but not sure if I want to do the big drunken hen do thing. I'm 20 and I have a 4 month old and on the few nights I've been out on since I haven't enjoyed as much as I did before I got pregnant. Just feel a bit out of place and thinking how immature everyone my age seems worried about silly drama and unimportant stuff. Can't be arsed putting a ton of make up on that is sweated off by 1am and heels that just make me wobble (I wear my trusty checkerboard vans instead). Still have baby weight so I feel like a right old bore amongst all the skinny ma linkeys with legs up to their eyes (worse cause that was me a year ago). Just want to be comfy at home with the baby and dp watching netflix and doing uni work in bed by midnight at latest. AIBU to say fuck it and do a night at my mums with the girls etc with prosecco and a bunch of lush face masks and skincare. Could get a woman I know to come do pedicures, put on a few Abba albums and maybe order some pizzas or a fuck tonne of Chinese. Comfy clothes required (nobody squeezing themselves into skinny jeans they have to get their partners to peel off them at the end of the night). My mum's got a hot tub too that we could relax in. Could even make a large bowl of pimms and do make your own cocktails for those who do want to drink. Or do it like an Abba themed night and everybody dresses Abba themed. Will people judge me for not doing a big night out or say stupid shit like 'you only get once in your life to go mental and you missed it?' I just feel I experimented with alcohol and drugs in my teens really extremely and I really don't miss it at all if anything I want to forget I was ever so naive as it was really dodgy stuff. I want to be able to wake up in the morning and go back to being a mum without a hangover. My other friends getting married all want to go to Amsterdam, Berlin, Magaluf for a wild one and I just feel very out of place that I don't know how to tell them I'm not going to do that and I'm probably not going to have more than my usual glass or 2 of merlot.