I don't think flowers are important at a wedding, are they?

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We are getting married in January on a mid-range budget.

I am not fussed about flowers. I cannot think of a single wedding I've been to where I've remembered the flowers.

Everyone else I speak to says the flowers are really important and you need to allocate 10% of your budget for them - 10%!!!!! Can that be true???

I have seen some gorgeous flowers which enhance the room and the ceremony, but they can be ridiculously expensive. On the other hand, I recently saw a ceremony room decorated the lengths of contorted willow or hazel entwined with tiny lights, which really suited the space and looked stunning. 10% sounds OTT.

I think they can look lovely but I don't actually think they are particularly important. I can’t say I remember wedding flowers either and if it’s a venue that isn’t sparse it will be fine.
Well apart from maybe button holes or bouquet.

I didn't have any and I'm not sure anyone noticed...

I think they look amazing sometimes and really set the room up...but they are so expensive and it’s not as if you can keep them.
I just had a simple bouquet for my wedding and don’t look back with any regret.

It really depends on the venue, what you are wearing, the overall style of the day...

But 10% is huge! I doubt even Harry and Meghan spent 10% of the wedding budget on flowers!

I like baby's breath but people tell me that's a filler flower and looks too plain on its own

I kind of want a fake flower bouquet as they are so much cheaper

They honestly aren't that important.

I had a handtied posy, DH and bestman had buttonholes and then there were a few centrepieces for tables.

Florist asked me what my theme was. I don't think she was impressed when I said 'stuff I like'. However she was a lovely florist and worked v well with my direction of 'I like bright colours, work something out' and the flowers were lovely. But they were definitely not 10% of the budget.

Our venue is a farm/village hall type set up. Going to be really informal. I'm wearing a fifties style dress. The bridesmaids are wearing whatever the fuck they want.

Yes I don't have a "theme" either or even a colour scheme. Shock horror!!

You're not having a colour scheme? Outrageous! How dare you even get married?

(Joking, obvs).

Nothing is "important" for a wedding except the vows. Have it however you like.

I notice flowers at a wedding because I love them, however, no flowers wouldn’t be shocking.

As you’re having a Jan wedding, baby’s breath would look lovely, like snow. You could team with something evergreen or tea lights in jam jars. It would look so nice yet simple.

I had fake bouquets and flowers on tables because I wanted flowers bit didn't want to spend the money. The bouquets were from eBay. I still love them now and I and at least 1 of my bridesmaids have them out on display! The others I bought from a wholesalers and had enough left over for my mum to make something with them for my granddad's grave! Me, mum and nan still have a vase of them each in our houses!

Baby's breath is lovely!

Id go for some buttonholes for the bridal party and a bouquet for you, and leave it at that. No-one will be looking round the room, they'll all be looking at the people and that's what the photos will be of.
Centrepieces or buffet decorations are nice but some of the best weddings I've been at have used balloons or vases and streamers.
My mum went rather MoBzilla over my wedding and insisted on spending loads on flowers. They looked pretty but the venue would have been fine without.

I love flowers and so they were important to me. However, no, you don't have to have them particularly if they arent your thing. It can be just as classy to decorate with ornaments, candles, lanterns etc.

I bought flowers online wholesale and arranged them and myself with my family and bridesmaids the day before the wedding. It was a great, fun experience and much cheaper than a florist (and they looked great). We had about 8-10 different flower and foliage species and absolutely packed out venue with them (went a bit overboard and had too many if I'm honest!) for

I do flowers for weddings at my church all the time. In January, there's not going to be much about in the way of non-imported flowers, so it could end up really expensive. Have you thought of doing them yourself, or finding an arty friend who would do it? There are lots of 'how to' videos on YouTube for fairly simple stuff which looks nice. Go to your local flower market (NOT a florist) for the flowers to get them as cheap as possible. Gyp is cheap, and it can look nice close up, but from a distance it fades into nothing, so I wouldn't have it in anything big.

Just... please, please don't do plastic flowers! I know I'll sound an awful snob, but it's really tacky. Don't start your married life surrounded by fakery.

And to be honest, if wholesaler sounds like too much trouble and you just want simple arrangements you can buy baby's breath and other flowers cheaply from the supermarket all year round.

I was thinking more dried flowers than plastic ones really

God no I could never do them myself, I'm much too lazy. Plus I haven't got space to store the bloody things, we live in a flat the size of a cupboard

I had fake flowers for my bouquet and husbands button hole, have really bad hay fever so didn't want to be sneezing all day. That's all we spent on flowers, didn't have any bridesmaids and if any of our families wanted flowers they sorted themselves. I bought the bouquet at a local wholesalers and still have it on display

I love flowers so they were important to me and I had loads.

Couldn't give a toss about the cake. Mind you, had an M&S one which everyone raved about.

I got a small bouquet as I wanted something to do with my hands! I just got a bridesmaids one as it was smaller (and cheaper).

I’ve seen paper lanterns for village halls if it looks bare. I had a tiny wedding so only had a bouquet for me (which was very heavy!) and button holes/corsages for parents. I have never noticed someone’s centrepieces.

We were going to get a floral runner for the table (long table seating 25 guests) but it was £50/metre so decided not to!

Baby’s breath as the ‘only’ flower, with foliage (holly and ivy are easily ‘harvested’ in Jan if you and some mates go out the day before with gloves and secateurs and heavy duty sacks!) and white candles would look classy and gorgeous, in my opinion.

My dad grew the flowers for ours (August), 2 of my favourites were Russian sage and lavender, both of which smell amazing and look good dried as well.

A friend ordered a load of dried flowers (lavender, fluffy grasses, poppy seed-heads, white everlasting flowers) and we decorated the venue with them the night before.

None of these options involve 10% of the budget. And no flowers is also totally fine. Weddings are about starting a good marriage, not window dressing.

Just seen you don’t want to DIY. We did it all together (families and bridesmaids/best men/mates who travelled up early to camp the night before) and it was a great evening, but you could ask friends to do it instead of getting you a gift. I was amazed by how up for helping out our mates were (what people will do if you ply them with food and nice wine )

I had a fake bouquet and we did fake buttonholes too, and I don't regret a thing. Meant I got to choose what I liked regardless of what was in season, and didn't have to worry about dribbles on my dress or squashing them 20 mins in etc. We didn't bother with any in the registry office as we weren't there long and it was a beautiful room anyway. We did have some real flowers on the tables at the reception venue which we chose in Lidl the day before - definitely not 10% of the budget!