Wedding abroad only want a few people there is that wrong?

[Homeburd]

Hi, I am looking to get married abroad as well really don't know where to start either but was asking boyfriend if we could only have brothers sisters there. their children, our mums and dads only invited no aunts no uncles no cousins and just close friends but he's saying he wants to invite all his aunts and uncles to the wedding abroad I haven't even met some of these people and don't see any of them i have now and again. so was wondering what are your thoughts on this I personally don't feel comfortable on my wedding day getting to know new people the basic how are you what's your job. I really only want people on the wedding day who we know and care about. Would love for the actual wedding day itself to be relaxing not running around 100 people saying thanks for coming lol

Well even with his aunts and uncles you’re not going to have 100 people are you? It’ll still be small. He has a much right as you to have who he wants at his wedding, and you can surely meet some of these relatives before the actual wedding? With a wedding abroad lots of people might not be able to afford to go anyway.

How likely is it that even siblings plus their children would attend let along aunts and uncles? Is it a long haul destination or short haul? Even short haul would be expensive for families and may mean than many can’t join you. I’d let him decide on who to invite from his family.

there is something in between just siblings and 100 people!
It might be really important to him to have them there - could you make an effort to meet them beforehand?

Thanks very much for replying. He said he's only inviting them out of respect for his patents. There is only a few aunts and uncles on my side of the family that I like and there a few alcoholics that would defo go but don't want them around my two kids so I thought it would be easier not to invite none of them to save hurt feelings think we will just have to send invites on both sides fingers crossed only the close ones will come. Thanks.

Homeburd - some places require you to have a civil legal ceremony first and then any church or other blessing arrangement.
Could you invite all of those your partner wants to one and the essentials to the other?

Fremantle thanks for replying we have decided just to invite aunts and uncles my mum and dad said that they will prob not go any ways with the cost of flights hotel spending money clothes and wedding gift. My cousin got married abroad so will have a chat with him and his wife to see how they done it. Just hope it goes smootly 😁

Do you mean your parents can't afford it or your aunts and uncles?

Sorry aunts and uncles x