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Save the dates

17 replies

Tillypea · 19/06/2018 17:14

I've seen some really lovely DIY save the dates that I've thought about making but OH thinks they're pointless and that we should save some money. Thoughts please? Are they a nice touch or should we not bother?

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Heratnumber7 · 19/06/2018 17:17

Can't you just send invitations?

There was no "saving the date" in my day. Just tell people if you think it's too early for invites, but you want to be sure they'll come.

tissuesosoft · 19/06/2018 17:18

Personally, I wouldn’t bother. A few of my friends have done them but I think they’re pointless. Example- friend texted me to say the date of the wedding and said she’s sending a save the date out, but she’s already told me the date...
I suppose it works for relatives who you may not have regular contact with.

babyboyHarrison · 19/06/2018 17:25

We printed stickers with the info (think address label ones - definitely not stolen from work ) and posted them out with Christmas cards. Figured people would stick them on their new calendars for the following year. Dead cheap and easy. Obviously wold depend on timings but worked for us.

happymummy12345 · 19/06/2018 17:31

We couldn't even if we'd wanted to because we were engaged for 3 months and planned the wedding in 2. So because we only had 2 months from setting the date til the day itself, we had to get the invitations out. Plus it was a very small wedding on mostly close family and a few close friends, so no need as they all knew the details.
If it's a long time til the wedding or a big wedding they could be useful, so people know when it is in advance, but you haven't got the worry of finalising all the details as you will have to before the invites go out.

SnuggyBuggy · 19/06/2018 17:37

I think they are useful to give people the opportunity to not book their holiday at the same time or give them a head start on travel plans or annual leave requests.

I think the traditional 6 weeks is too little time these days.

londonloves · 19/06/2018 17:41

Ours is last weekend of summer holidays so we sent save the date cards with Christmas cards. Was a fuck load of admin though. Wouldn't have done it if not in school holidays.

LeGrandeDame · 19/06/2018 18:08

I'd just book the venue and then you can send out invitations.
(Might be because I had my eye on really cool, way too expensive invites though!)

GaryBarlowsTaxReturn · 19/06/2018 19:40

I emailed the save the date and then did nice invitations.

Shoxfordian · 20/06/2018 05:57

We're not doing save the date; invites will go out mid July for wedding on 1 Feb. Most people aren't busy 6 months or so in advance. I've told a few people when it is as well. Don't bother with them

acornsandnuts · 20/06/2018 06:15

They’re pointless.

Unless you are my close family or mine or DHs best friends, who I would assume would be aware of the dates anyway. I wouldn’t change say a holiday for your wedding I would just decline the invitation. If I received your invitation in good time of course I wouldn’t arrange a night out or social event.

An invitation with good notice is quite enough.

JobHunting4 · 20/06/2018 06:30

We had them because a lot of people were travelling, and it was in the school holidays. Didn't want any important people ha ING already booked a holiday when we knew our date but hadn't told them. We also contained venue info so they could book a hotel with it being a small holiday location itself.
Sometimes I don't think they're necessary.

Peterrabbitscarrots · 20/06/2018 06:50

I don’t think I’d bother. The people closest to you will probably know the date already. People who aren’t as close as less likely to bother “saving the date.” Eg if we received one from a cousin that we hadn’t seen in ages, I wouldn’t go out of my way to avoid booking a holiday or event, especially if it fell during the school holidays or Christmas

Cliveybaby · 20/06/2018 08:55

We just texted our close family and friends...
Eg "Hi aunty x, booked wedding for 01/01/01, keep it free! Xx"

Shoxfordian · 20/06/2018 10:22

American wedding sites call them STDs..as in "How should I make sure everyone gets an std...." !

Cliveybaby · 20/06/2018 17:51

@Shoxfordian *sniggering...
good old americans

merlotmummy14 · 20/06/2018 23:39

We're getting married in June 2019 and will have save the dates out by the end of the summer and invitations 3 months before with all the finer details. My partner has to book holidays a year in advance or otherwise it is just chance whether or not he can get it off on any shorter notice. Even requesting a Friday off a few months can be impossible if it's during the summer months and too many people are already off - very few people at his work are willing to swap shifts as well. He's a civil service employee so not an unusual profession either. We have people traveling from abroad who we have already told so they can look it into cheap flights.

BackforGood · 20/06/2018 23:52

I think they are a waste of money. Postage adds up you know.

Just use t'internet to let people know the date - whatever you normally use - Facebook, Messenger, WhatsApp, e-mail, one of the zillions of other things that I don't know about, ..... or text them......or...... here's an old fashioned idea....... speak to them - you know, tell them when you see people, or even phone them up if you aren't going to be seeing them.

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