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Anyone have a family member spoil your wedding?

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HannahR14 · 18/06/2018 20:00

My older sister kind of spoiled my wedding and I'm struggling to think of our wedding day in a positive light. It's too tedious to go into, but basically she decided 3 days before our wedding that she wasn't coming .Her reasons were not great and I was quite upset. She actually turned up on the day after all but hadn't bothered to tell me she'd decided to come. I had already cancelled 3 places set aside for her and her family with the venue. Despite her behaviour, my parents essentially took her side. Rather than elated, I felt awkward for most of the day partly because I'm sure my mum and dad think I was being some kind of raving bridezilla...I mean, how DARE I want to know who was actually coming to my own sodding wedding? I am sad that the over-arching feelings I associate with this day are awkward and annoyed. It's pointless wishing it, but I ache to go back in time and have our day again without that nonsense. Lots went right and I am aware that in the grand scheme of things none of this is important. I just wondered if anyone else had had situations that marred their wedding a little...it's hard to admit that it wasn't the 'happiest day ' of my life. I feel really fed up with my sister and with my parents and it was the one day I wanted to feel nothing but love and joy.

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Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname · 18/06/2018 20:04

We uninvited mil so she trashed our honeymoon instead.
Nasty cow.

NapQueen · 18/06/2018 20:09

A relatives boyfriend, who we only invited for the evening part under obligation to her. He is a twat and always has been. He kept insisting we tell him what the wedding cost, said my dad had "fucked us over" by not paying (we had refused all financial help, dad ended up picking up the open bar tab without our knowledge etc). Said he would punch dh. Said it was shit that i was pregnant when relative (his partner) couldnt concieve. Said they would "take the baby and spoil it and it would fucking hate us". Sneered to a friend about another family who attended judging them and theb saying "oh they must be dhs side". People were actually coming up to me and saying they thought he was a random and crashed the wedding.

He also put most of this in our wedding book.

Needless to say weve not laid eyes on him since and our kids have never even heard of his existence.

jasmin93 · 18/06/2018 20:17

Same here. Didn't invite my husband's sister as she constantly insults me in public. Wish we didn't invite mil, too.
Well, she still doesn't know that we are expecting our first DS soon.
Makes me feel better Wink

SallyVating · 18/06/2018 20:23

Ex-Bil and Sil - Turned up drunk with a bag of rotten fruit and veg as a wedding present.

Ex-Sil got even drunker.. got me in a headlock and sobbed at how sorry she felt for me marrying into such an awful family.. and then she pissed herself so I spent ages during the reception hunting down a mop and bucket and something for her to wear.

They were indeed an awful family and the marriage lasted two years :o

Doobigetta · 18/06/2018 21:15

My brother in law tried. He was outraged that our no child policy included his girlfriend's daughter, so responded by not rsvp-ing, and then on the day said one word to my husband, no words at all to me, and sneaked off home after an hour to post on Facebook about how "family is everything". It didn't come even close to spoiling the day, because he just isn't that important- but I'll never forget or forgive.
Don't give your sister the power to spoil your memories, OP. It wasn't about her, however hard she tries to make it so.

mummabearfoyrbabybears · 19/06/2018 06:58

Yes. My father in law. He didn't agree at all that we were old enough (18 and not pregnant) despite DH being in the army. He was rude to my family, rude to me. Controlling and dominating. Went NC about 16 years ago. Best decision we ever made. Celebrate our silver wedding anniversary next month and we have four beautiful children that he's missed out on. Two he's never even met.

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