Thinking of not doing favours....?

[kocerhan3]

So many people have commented to me how "pointless" and "unnecessary" favours are at weddings - yet I feel like we'd still be judged for not doing any?! Would people care if we didn't? Would they notice? I don't want to spend loads of money on them for no reason. So therefore:

Can I get away with not doing favours at all?
If I have to, what's cheap/cheerful and will be appreciated/taken/eaten?

Thanks in advance!

We gave lottery tickets as favours - few people won a tenner so all good

We didn't, I think they are pointless (although admit to having enjoyed a lovely little jar of sweets from the last wedding I went to). The hotel our reception was in offered to do petit fours with coffee so we decided to do that instead. I wanted a haste free wedding as much as possible (lazy)

We didn't. I don't expect them either.
It seems to me to be another expense because, well, wedding and 'everyone has them'.

Of four weddings I've been to in the last year or so all had favours.
One had £££ biscuits iced with B&G's initials - too full to eat and wouldn't fit in tiny clutch so got left on table when moved to another room for evening reception.
One had candles for the ladies - again wouldn't fit in clutch so left on table as didn't want to carry it around.
One had corkscrews engraved with B&G's names and wedding date - I KonMari so don't want/need another corkscrew (or two - there was one per adult so two per couple!) so we left them on the table.
Last one had little cube boxes of chocs - I took the chocs and squeezed them in my clutch bag but left the personalised box. A lot of people ate theirs after dinner. The bride said the venue returned about 30-40% to her that were left on tables.
All in all I'd say they were a complete waste of money, time and energy! Spend it on more food or drinks, that's what I always remember about a good wedding.

No one cares. No one will notice. No one will 'reminisce' about some random stuff on the table.

I did gift bags with toys, balloons and colouring books for the children. But that was just to keep them entertained. Nothing for the adults, they got free food and drink. Seems enough!

I can’t remember what my own favours were. It was only 5 years ago! So I would not bother. I too like the retro sweets idea though-good talking point like pp said.

This is what my sister did too, it worked really well.

I did gift bags with toys, balloons and colouring books for the children. But that was just to keep them entertained. Nothing for the adults,
Sorry ^ this is what my sister did

Pointless tat 99% of the time. And where are you supposed to put them if you don't have a bag or have a v small one?

We did gift bags for the kids too. Colouring book, pencils, bubbles, small pack of sweets and a balloon.
We didn’t bother with favours either. We put the cash towards some entertainment between the meal and night do.
The only persons to notice and make a fuss was MIL but she was a fucking nightmare about everything and nothing was good enough for her.

We are doing charity

What does ”doing charity” mean?

We did love hearts - brought from Amazon for £3.89 for 50

Simple, cheap and nothing special.

I wanted to do mini alcohol bottles (as DH and I feel in love when completely intoxicated on vodka but at £1.90 each (x 130 guests) it seemed like a pointless expense that no one would remember

I like the idea of palmaviolets or sherbet fountains too. Something retro

Donating money to a charity by buying pins from them which will be on a placename card, they also do heart seeds in organza bags

Nobody ever notices if you don't have them - often they're left behind anyway. And nobody keeps them long if they do remember to take it. Skip it and give everybody a lollipop instead. Although I do remember one particular wedding where somebody at our table thought the soap favour was chocolate and bit into it.

We made fudge - very cheap to do (sugar, butter, condensed milk were the basic ingredients) and put a few cubes into little cellophane packets, tied with ribbon and a handwritten label. It took an evening to do, and cost less than £20 in total to make 100.

I’ve always enjoyed favours at weddings personally, and I liked the way they looked at the place settings - decorating tables was an enjoyable part of our wedding as everything was DIY.

I enjoyed making them and didn’t stress about it, I wouldn’t have bothered otherwise!

We didn't bother with favours. We paid in full for entire wedding - food and drinks all night. Instead of favours we did other personalised touches that we liked - whiskey bar, popcorn and sweet counter. Our focus was ensuring people had sufficient food and drink. Nobody made any comment about there not being any favours and I certainly do not regret it. If to have them is important to you and you would regret not then do it but not one guest will care either way. I'm sure they would be grateful if they were there but they won't notice if they are not. I would question the worthiness of a guest being invited if they were the sort to moan about it.

I would never mon about no favours, probably wouldn’t notice 🤷🏼‍♀️ But when I go to a wedding and there is a favour which has had thought put into it, I do enjoy it. I’m not keen on the standard miniature bottles of stuff.. still have a bottle of wine with the bride and groom Name on it, was pregnant at the time so couldn’t drink it, now it doesn’t look appetising!

We just put Love Hearts sweets in little bags tied up with a ribbon (because I really like Love Hearts) which I enjoyed making, but YANBU to not have favours.

We didn't bother. I always feel obliged to take them then they sit at home gathering dust until I eventually bin them. What a pointless waste.

No. Didn't do them. Think most are nasty, and no one cares.

Were having personalised fudge favours from one of the best and oldest fudge houses in Australia. Luckily we know the owner and she’s doing the favours for free.

If we weren’t getting free favours we wouldn’t be doing them.

We didn't. We spent the extra money on booze

For the guests not ourselves obvs