Colleagues wedding dilemma

[ReigningChaos]

OK, so I have been invited to a colleagues wedding. It is on a public holiday and just about about everyone else at work who were invited are unable to go due to previous commitments.

I don't drive so will be relying on public transport (on a holiday timetable). It's about 1hr 45mins at which point I would be collected by a colleague and travel with them to the venue another 20 mins away. The reception is another half hour away after that.. The colleague is not going back home that night so I would have to make my way back to where they collected me. A taxi will probably cost around £55 (on top of train train fares) then I will jump on the train for homeward bound! I'd have to leave early-ish to make connections.

It makes me quite sad when I think that so few colleagues will be there so I'm trying to make an effort but it's starting to feel like a lot of travel and wasted time and money. If there were more people going I'd not feel as bad at declining but that said, I would like to attend.

What would y'all do?!!

I think for me a wedding just needs the bride and groom and it's a date they picked so you have nothing to feel bad about. Unless you're very close to the colleague I wouldn't go given the faff travelling would involve,

It completely depends on how close you are to the colleague who is getting married. If they’re a good friend out side of work then treat it like you would any other good friends wedding and make the effort to attend.

If you see yourselves as ‘just colleagues’ and feel like you need to go to represent the rest of the team (this is what it sounds like) then don’t worry about it. Just say you can’t make it.

far away + expensive + none of your friends going = only go if you actually want to!

I wouldn't go. People often invite collegues to be polite, and if you don't know anyone then it'll be expensive small talk. Don't go out of duty, they won't expect you to, and might be happy you turned their invite down.. I dunno. are you very close.? there will be other people at the wedding with lifts and taxis for the last bit....

Pretty sure that many would have been invited out of courtesy. It's not the same as a birthday where the more people turn up the more you feel liked
The happy couple are essentially enough in themselves and will have numbers to consider. Attendance or otherwise is not seen as a reflection on them,nunless you are family.