Really need advice on wether I should carry on being a bridesmaid or tell the bride I can’t do it anymore ....... the bride has been my best friend since primary school she got engaged a few years ago and after a very blunt asking for me to be bridemaid which was overshadowed by her telling me why she picked someone else to be maid of honor and not me ( she said she wrote a pro and cons list about us ) this was the start fast forward a year a half of hearing everything wedding which I’ve smiled and chatted along with , we went dress shopping I had explained to her that I would like to keep the budget down to about £100 as we are paying for everything ourselves ( I was ok with this as she said she would keep in our budget ) we also asked that she consider non strapless dresses as none of us feel that comfortable wearing them ..:. Well shopping trip number one she hadn’t phoned ahead to any shops to ensure they had sizes and styles for us to try on so 3 shops in and I’ve had to sit and watch the other 2 try dresses on as I’m bigger then them and they didn’t have dresses for me to try on ... to say that trip was a disaster was an understatement.. the next shopping trip she planned I was away and couldn’t go to which she was furious about. Then her and the maid of honor have a massive argument about how demanding the bride is being and now she’s told her she won’t be part of the wedding ... so off we go on another trip to find dresses ... we find one and I hate it but the bride loved it .. it’s strapless ... it’s for a body shape with no curves and I have lots of curves but we get with the agreement I could wear my hair down because it was strapless ( baring in mind I hate my hair up and I can’t remeber the last time I wore it up ) oh and the dress was £180 !! Like a mug I paid it .... after Lots of demands for her hen do and saying we aren’t good enough at planning etc we still have months and months before the hen do ... also everytime I see her it’s all just about the wedding we never talk about anything else and I’ve personally had a really tough year ..... so fasting forward again we go to pick the dress up ... the women in the shop tells me I need to loose weight for the dress to look good on me even went as far as measuring me and telling me exactly how many inches to loose .. telling us all how the other bridesmaid looks a lot better IN the dress .. how I have a very odd body and nothing would really suit me ..... all in front of the bride and her mum and other bridesmaid... not one of them stuck up for me.... so I leave the shop distraught .... bride then declares that she was going to pay for all alterations but now will only pay £50 worth ( more cost for me ) she’s only paying for flowers and hair we are to pay for everything else to allow her to have the honey moon she wants ... she’s also told me my hair has to be up and that as I’m having a panel added to my dress as it doesn’t sit on me properly I asked for the ribbon to be hanging out tied nicely to cover the extra seams I’m not allowed this is has to be tucked in ... she’s also demanding we all dress up on the hen do ...I hate dressing up and said I would do it but probably do it subtle nope this isn’t allowed ... she’s also demanding we are available all the time i have a busy demanding job which she doesn’t understand....... please help I’m at my wits end with her she’s pretty much unbearable to be around and I don’t think I can cope with anything else my body confidence has been shattered because of this wedding ... and when I add all the cost it’s looking to be about £1000 for the hen and wedding ... what do I do !! I’ve left lots of of this so much more has gone on but this is just some of it ...... Sorry for the long post 
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Looner123 · 20/04/2018 08:08
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