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Bridesman

16 replies

emilyScF93 · 18/04/2018 23:22

Hi all,

I recently got engaged and am considering certain aspects of my wedding.

I am having a little trouble with picking bridesmaids. Whilst I have many female friends, none of these girls are close enough to consider as bridesmaids. I also have no sisters, female cousins. Partner also has no female relatives that I could ask. As it is I only have one girl that I will ask to be maid of honour. I do have a gay best friend who I would love to ask to be my bridesman. I asked my partner for his thoughts on this and he said it was my choice but said that it seems a little unconventional and may be seen as a bit of a joke.

What do you guys think? Any opinions or heard of anyone doing this.

OP posts:
LivLemler · 18/04/2018 23:47

DH had a groomswoman. Go for it.

NellythePink · 18/04/2018 23:50

My DH had a best woman x

LemonysSnicket · 19/04/2018 00:17

My DP will be having grooms maids at our wedding. My brides maids, his best man, my best woman, my chief bridesmaid and his grooms maids. All his mates bar one are female ( bloke is the BM) and my best woman will give a speech ( sister/ chief bridesmaids is v shy) .

MaggieFS · 20/04/2018 06:42

I only had one maid of honour/bridesmaid and that was it. Absolutely fine.

I've seen a best woman at wedding but never a bridesman. Can't see it would be an issue though. Do you see him fulfilling all the roles of a bridesmaid? Is he the right person for those jobs? If yes, go for it. If not, just stick with the one you've got. If he really is best friend he could still play a role by doing a reading or something.

Bodear · 20/04/2018 06:45

My friend had a Man of Honour. I don’t think it’s that unusual

winterwonderly · 20/04/2018 07:00

Go for it. Weddings all get a bit similar after a while. I like it when someone does something a little different, they're the ones that stand out, like the one where the bride made a speech or the one where the bride walked down the aisle to a heavy rock song!

spacestranger · 20/04/2018 07:03

He's your best friend. How lovely to include him!

CommanderDaisy · 20/04/2018 07:09

Go for it.
I had 2 male bridesmaids, as all my friends were men.

Frombothsidesnow · 20/04/2018 07:10

I had one bridesmaid, although it was a very low key wedding so even she wasn't really bridesmaidy. And my male best friends made the speech.

BothersomeCrow · 20/04/2018 07:12

DH and I both had Best Men.

Summer1986 · 20/04/2018 07:13

I had 3 bridesmaids and a bridesman. He wore the same suit as the ushers/best man but walked down the aisle with the bridesmaids.
He was my man of honour so signed the register as a witness etc and helped organise my hen parties.

Reiltin · 20/04/2018 07:13

I had two brides men. I will say this - they were completely useless!!! Nice to have them there but you need people who can actually help you with stuff. If he’s that sort of guy, go for it!

GinIsIn · 20/04/2018 07:15

We had a best woman - have who you like!

ScreamingValenta · 20/04/2018 07:18

Go for it!

pompomcat · 20/04/2018 07:21

If you are close to him, go for it.
One of my good friends had a Man of Honour Smile

caoraich · 20/04/2018 07:26

I was a groomswoman at my best friend's wedding, it was lovely! I had the same dress as the bridesmaids but in a grey that matched the other groomsmen's suits.

My friend had just her brother as her "man of honour" at her wedding recently, no bridesmaids at all. Again it was lovely.

Go for it! Most guests at both weddings didn't comment on this and those that did said how nice it was.

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