Brides father plus one?

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I am getting married in September and my father just got a new girlfriend a month ago. I think it's too soon to invite her to my wedding? We are having a 16 person wedding with just immediate family. No friends, no extended family... parents and siblings.

My parents have been divorced for years but my Dad also goes through women. It's nothing against his new girlfriend whom I've only met once but she might not be around in September or in a years time...

He's mad. He thinks she should be invited, especially if he's paying. He's a child and won't listen to anyone else's feelings. What to do?

Is it enough to say, it's my day, I don't want her to be there or be in photos.

If he's paying it seems reasonable he wants to bring a guest. Could you not compromise and say she can come but not be in the photos?

I could but I know he'll ignore that on the day.
Also, I don't want her to be there and not feel included. My mother raised me not to be rude.

Why is he paying? Pay for your own wedding and you can just get hI'm to walk you down the aisle or whatever.
It's a small enough wedding, that it won't be odd if he's not with anyone. It's obviously just nearest and dearest.

Pay for the wedding yourselves and don’t invite your dad at all.

Can you invite her for the evening.

If you invited her where would she sit? On the top table? If they have been together for longer than maybe but not weeks

If I were lucky enough to be invited to the wedding of the child of someone I'd been seeing for a short time, I'd go, but I'd keep out of the official photos. Hopefully, this woman is the sensible sort and will do likewise.

If he’s paying for it then he can invite who he likes. It’s your wedding, pay for it yourself then you can take ownership of it. It’s your big day not for other people to fork out and dictate. If he wants to contribute then ask him to pay for something specific like the car to take you and DF there etc. Not anything related to the do.

This isn't about paying. I can pay for my own wedding. It's about principle, she's been around for 2 minutes.

Anyone been in my position?

I was with my now husband for 5 months when his son got married..I was not invited to the wedding, was slightly miffed at the time, but looking back, it was the right decision.

I agree that she shouldn't come to a small intimate wedding as she's not been around long enough.

It is about whose paying though. If you pay for your own wedding then it's clearly your wedding - one that you've invited 16 guests to and no extras ( her). If your fathers paying then it's a family do.
He'll pay for the extra guest and what you going to do about it?
Do you think it worth falling out over ( it might be). As Oprah says; do uyou want to be right, or do you want to be happy.