Quick/secret engagements

[DoggiePavlova]

Anyone else in a similar boat?

DP and I have been dating 3 months. He's asked me to marry him and I've said yes. Sounds totally mad I'm sure but he's the one for me. I've plenty of relationship experience under my belt, have learned about myself and more of what I'm looking for from each one so I do have a practical head on as well as being so utterly in love with DP. I feel it's a case of when you know you know, and we would like to buy a house and have a family before certain life events coming our way in 5ish years time. We currently don't live together (long story in and of itself!)

Hope that's enough info to avoid drip feeding! We haven't told my family yet as they haven't spent much time with him and us as a couple as they live abroad. I want them to know him well (they'll think he's fantastic, he's a real box checker for their DD) before we tell them. His family also don't know because of mine, only fair. We're telling friends though.

I wanted to explain the above so I won't be judged or sound like a Daily Fail journo!!

So question is: anyone else got engaged very quickly or keeping the joy to themselves? How are you finding it? How the hell do you go about planning a wedding? I've done some preliminary stuff but DM would be a big help!

I’m intrigued as to why not living with someone you’ve only been with for 3 months is a long story?!

If you are telling friends it's not secret though

I suppose other families could be different but mine would be a bit upset not to know so it really feels like a secret even though we've told a few select friends.

In any case, I was wondering about the questions I asked, especially getting ideas without anyone to bounce off.

If you've told friends it'll get back to family somehow! I'd tell them as soon as possible (or tell absolutely nobody) or they could be pretty hurt when they find out.

We kept it secret for one day, then told our parents over Skype the next day.

Why aren’t you telling them-because you think they’ll say it’s too soon? That’s probably what I’d think, to be honest!

However, I know a couple who got engaged after 3 months and had an extremely long and happy marriage, so I know it can happen. They didn’t sneak around lying about it though, they just announced it and got on with their lives.

What exactly is it you’re asking though? Do you want help planning a wedding without your mum’s help? Try asking on the Weddings board-I’m sure there’s plenty of people who have planned a wedding on their own.

Or is that not it? Do you actually want help to tell your mum you’re engaged? Are you scared of her reaction?

I would have either got engaged and told everyone, or said-‘yes, I want to marry you, but now is a bit soon’, when he asked you.

I actually know a few girls who got engaged years ago but wouldn’t tell their parents. They were engaged, but it was a secret -we used to call it ‘crap engaged’. They were in the sixth form though .

Don’t be crap engaged, OP!