Family Wedding advice

[ferrari27]

Hi everyone
My dp and I have decided we would like to get married this year just a small gathering of very close family ie grandparents parents siblings. I'm worried other members of the family may be annoyed with us as we want it to very intimate. Has anyone done this ? We were thinking of having a meal after the ceremony then perhaps a night In a hotel just for us 2 and then going on holiday soon after with our 4dc . My dps siblings are getting married next year and they have already sent save the dates cards and I don't want it to look bad if we do ours for later this year. Ours would be nothing like theirs as they are having a massive traditional wedding. Tia

How many are you thinking OP?

We are thinking about 50 all day - mainly family. We well then have a much bigger party for friends etc. I am still stressing about offending people 🙈

Probably 25 that's siblings their children's parents and grandparents

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I think inevitably some people will be offended but you need to do what suits you.

You've got to do what pleases you, it's your day! Don't worry about everyone else! Me, DP and DC are doing it this year, just the 3 of us and I couldn't be happier! Less stress and more of what 'we' want!!!

We did this - had about 40 guests. My family were great about it, but DH’s made a massive fuss and ruined it a bit for us. Lots of “I’m not going if x isn’t invited”, that sort of thing. We stuck to our guns though and had a great day. I was paying for it myself (DH wasn’t working at the time), which made it easier

We're doing this. 12 people. That includes the children. We really couldn't care less about anyone else because they aren't paying!

With weddings you always somehow annoy people; even if you had a big do there would be people who felt they should have been invited so don’t worry about it and enjoy your day.
I’m currently planning a bigish one and wishing we’d kept small and intimate

My Uncles had a very intimate wedding with mainly friends rather than family actually. None of us who weren't invited were offended! We were just grateful to see them so happy and enjoyed the photos afterwards. People should be happy you're happy xx

Whatever you do, you'll piss someone off. It doesn't matter how hard you try, someone will take umbrage at your plans. Do what works for you, and practice smiling sadly and saying, oh, what a shame, we'd have loved to have seen you there.