"Why didn't you just elope?"

[tyney123]

I'm getting married very soon, begining of March and I'm really looking forward to essentially saying "I love you" to my partner in front our friends and family and becoming husband and wife.
I've never had a dream wedding in mind, wedding magazines and blogs baffle me and I'm not one for spending thousands on one day.
It seems to be that everyone is stressing out over our wedding but I'm not? I'm more getting stressed that family are trying to stress me out.
My sister (bridesmaid) has said more than a few times "Why didn't you just elope? 😂 save you all the stress!" But I'm not stressed! She is! I honestly don't care about wedding favours or how they should wear their hair, they could come in their pjs for all I care . I find her elope comment a bit upsetting really.
When I have taken charge and bought something or chosen something I'm met with thin smiles and "oh okay" or just flat "No, not that style/colour/etc"
I just don't get what all the fuss is about. We didn't want to go small with the ceremony as we wanted to say our vows with our friends and family but I don't understand why I have to waste a lot of money on a "fancy" car for a short ride or I have to make seating plan so all our family are together but it's just a buffet evening meal, what's the point? Sit where you like?
Oh and then I have to look my best! I'm a fat girl, always have been probably always will be! I've put on 2 stone since getting together with OH (pregnancies, comfort eating etc) but we're happy and he loves all of me. But No, I must lose weight for this wedding. And I'm to get a spray tan as it makes you slimmer. And have I thought about wearing contacts? Or just not wearing my glasses at All? You want to look your best at the Wedding! Oh and make sure you get yourself a bikini wax for the honey moon wink wink
All comments from sister, sister in law, mother and friend.
I want to scream a lot of expletives at them but I don't. I just sit and listen to their nonsense and get emotional with my very supportive fiance at home 😅

Aahhhh I feel much better getting that all out 😅😅

You doing gave to do any of it. You know what you want and what you don't care about, sit them down and remind them that this is your wedding, that you didn't elope because you want them t be part of it and love them but.....

......that they're being a gaggle of overbearing bitches and they need to reign it in and stop trying to create a wedding of their dreams not yours.

That first sentence should read. You don't have to do any of it.

My advice would be don’t share any information with them above what you absolutely have to- with our wedding (second time for both of us so we knew exactly how these things turn out if you’re not careful) we literally just sent the whole family and friends invitations and then saw them on the day, didn’t discuss a thing. It was extremely relaxed

It'll be fine. Families always go nuts about weddings. Just let it out here or at work and then carry on not minding about things.

FWIW we used taxis instead of a fancy car, did our own buttonholes, decor, cake etc, had a buffet with no seating plan and despite some comments in advance on the day it went brilliantly and we had a fab day.

'Thanks for concerning yourself with my pubes'

'I look just fine in my specs thanks'

'He likes me just the way I am'

Shut them down !