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Your favourite and worst thing about a wedding you've attended?

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SkeletonSkins · 02/02/2018 20:46

Because I'm bored on a Friday night, just thought I'd ask what was your favourite thing about a wedding you've been to, and the worst? Don't have to be the same wedding of course!

My fave thing was a friend's wedding which had flavoured tequila on the tables and Mexican food. So delicious and was really sociable as there were sharing platters. Also loved a wedding I went to where the food was takeaway pizzas and like 10 cheesecakes. Oh and behind the bar too! Not to everyone's taste but suited me!

Worst would have to be the cheesiest singing waiters ever in the middle of the meal. I just wanted to eat but kept having to avoid their gaze incase they came over to me and started singing. Also went to a wedding once where I paid for an expensive hotel room as I knew I would drink and the bride knew this was why I'd booked it. Got to the wedding and no alcohol was available for most of the day, with a eye-wateringly expensive bar opening late into the evening! Compete waste of a hotel room as I could have driven home if I'd have known.

Also went to a wedding where the father of the groom announced how proud he was that his daughter had remained a virgin and wished the groom an enjoyable night. CRINGE!

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Crunched · 02/02/2018 23:44

The groom (my cousin) announced during his speech that he and his beautiful bride would welcome any of us to visit them at anytime but, to be aware there would be three of them 'at their table'.
Everyone clapped and cheered thinking this was a pregnancy announcement. He looked confused; he meant Jesus.

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SkeletonSkins · 03/02/2018 11:07

Oh gosh that is so awkward! Anyone else out there with bests/worsts?

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LittleCandle · 03/02/2018 11:08

My niece had ice cream served (for free!) at her wedding between ceremony and meal while the photos were being done. As it turned out to be an extremely hot day, it was very welcome and you could return as often as you wanted.

FairfaxAikman · 03/02/2018 11:13

Best: meal where the food was simple but awesome - steak pie!

Worst: the one where the bride had a photo list covering three sides of A4 and refused I do them in order from most guests to least. Think about a quarter of them got done in the end.

Littlewhistle · 03/02/2018 11:28

Don't have any really good things from weddings - most have been nice traditional Scottish ones.

Worst - We are used to big sit-down meals so found the concept of a buffet at a wedding in England a bit "different"., It was very much a homespun do in a social club hall and we ended up trying to eat boiled ham with a spoon as they didn't have enough cutlery.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 03/02/2018 11:34

Worst: A burger van for the only food. You had to queue for ages. There wasn't a veggie option so I had a chip butty!

Best: I'm a fan of a sweet table!

restingbemusedface · 03/02/2018 11:44

Best - free bar, plenty of food and good music.

Worst - my cousin had literally a 4 hour wait between ceremony and food being served with no snacks or drinks served in between. It was awful and I just wanted to go home. I was breastfeeding twins and was absolutely ravenous, it was cold and raining (not their fault I know) and I was desperate for a glass of something to get me through. Made me pay special attention to that time when planning my own wedding - food, drinks and good music will be served til the sit down meal!

BeatyBeast · 03/02/2018 11:48

The best by far was a relaxed bride who was having the best time (i was at two of those). The worst was a super stressed bride who was miserable til the whole thing was over (i was a bm so copped a lot of the flak from that unnecessary stress)

IHeartHoumous · 03/02/2018 11:51

All weddings i've been to so far have been really enjoyable, would love to go to an 'off the wall' one i.e. the one mentioned earlier with the flavoured tequila on tables! One in particular the sit-down meal was really underwhelming, what was most frustrating was the venue is amazing - a hotel that serves great food times i've had a meal in there - but the wedding breakfast was rubbery and felt like it was day-old reheated grub. I am wary of weddings where you have to make a meal choice from a shortlist ahead of time however, mainly as I know friends who waitress/waiter at weddings tell me they're all prepared the day before as they know exactly how many of each to have ready. Quality still good but obviously not the freshest.

JaneEyre70 · 03/02/2018 11:53

Best wedding - one in the week on a hot summer day, reception was in a walled garden with tons of shade and champagne flowing. It was a really really lovely day. Went with my mum and DH had to come and pick us both up as we were a bit tipsy

Worst wedding - 2 family ones come to mind. One was a midday wedding and they served the food at 5pm, not fun with 3 very hungry kids and no food available to order as it was a venue not a hotel.
Other one was 200 miles away, we'd had to pay over £400 for 2 rooms and we arrived for the evening to find a huge queue for the buffet and no food left by the time we got down the line. Had to go and sit in the hotel restaurant and spend another £100 on food to add insult to injury. It was miles from anywhere and DH was in a foul mood by the time we got home... cost us best part of £600 for a crap weekend. We no longer travel for weddings!

SwarmOfCats · 03/02/2018 12:04

Best: relaxed, games available (awesome ice breakers between guests!), lovely sit down meal, cheesy music, lots of dancing, hog roast in the evening. Relaxed and really good fun!

Worst - I was a photographer for a wedding where they’d booked a huge venue...far too big for their wedding! The majority of people went home early evening, there was almost nobody on the dance floor, then they stopped the music/what little dancing there was so a friend could play some maudlin acoustic stuff. I had to stay to the end in this massive expensive venue with about 4 guests left by 10pm! I felt bad for the bride and groom, to be honest - it must have been underwhelming for them.

Iheartdogs · 03/02/2018 12:15

Worst - endless photography of wedding party, whilst guests shivered in a freezing churchyard.

The mother of the bride stormed out because the groom didn't thank her, in his speech, for making the bridesmaids dresses.

Food was over cooked.

Another wedding had a very tedious quiz about the bride and groom - where did they meet, where did they get engaged. Also, a game of cricket was organised before the reception... I have no idea why.

Best - probably my SIL's wedding where there was loads of food and drink and the venue was lovely.

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SkeletonSkins · 03/02/2018 15:41

Big gaps and lack of food coming up as an issue it seems, but for me planning a wedding the idea of having 4 people left by 10 in a massive venue is my worst nightmare!! I hadn't even thought that people working weddings would see all sorts of choices and how they work out!

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Bridechilla · 03/02/2018 18:54

The good: a sociable sharing cream tea instead of a full blown meal at a wedding where we didn't know many people at. At another wedding when the evening guests arrived the photographer set up a screen on the dance floor and gave a little proven of the ceremony and day they'd missed, sounds naff but it was lovely to get a preview and he included some funnies, broke the ice a bit.

The bad: at one reception in a pub we were moved into an attic space for the party, packed in like sardines - it was positively claustrophobic. Another the Bride made it a mission to trash her dress, she was throwing herself round the dance floor and it was hanging off her by the end of the night. It must've cost her a fortune too

Bridechilla · 03/02/2018 18:55

*preview of the days photos

GreyFluffball · 03/02/2018 19:07

The best - lots of food and drink, good music, no waiting around with nothing to do. Great weather helped and an amazing venue with gorgeous gardens to drink in!
The worst - civil ceremony about 2pm, photos etc followed. Sat down for a bog standard hotel meal speeches etc. Was all done for about 5pm. Then we were turfed out of the room for it to be redone for the evening. Fair enough we thought we'll wait in the bar. To be told there was no bar for the duration. Evening reception not until 7pm. It was local so many people didn't have rooms. It was very weird, not sure what b&g expected us to do in that gap? A group of us went to the local pub in our wedding outfits!

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 03/02/2018 19:08

Best - lovely relaxed day in the grounds of a rural, local cricket club. People just chilled out and there was a really good disco for the evening.

Worst - everything took place in one room so between the ceremony + meal and meal + disco when they were changing the room up, all guests had to wait in a shit bar/corridor outside. It had fuck all atmosphere, very little seating, and we had to pay for drinks. I don't mind a paying bar, unless said bar is total crap and I'm stuck there.

Also worst - lovely venue but food truly dire. Venue sprawling and lack of communication about evening reception but meant most people just ended up doing their own thing in various parts of the hotel, and the disco had no dancing whatsoever. I felt gutted for the b+g who are such lovely, fun people.

Gekkoforprimeminister · 03/02/2018 19:21

Best was a lavish candy cart and children's buffet which the adults wolfed down as it was so delicious. Miniature hot dogs, pizzas, fish and chip cones, Yorkshire puds etc.

Also a really relaxed woodland wedding on a gorgeous Summer's day. They had little demos and lessons of things like whittling and weaving.

Worst a marquee wedding in August but it was freezing cold and rainy. The bride thought it was a "posh" wedding but actually it was freezing cold and extremely boring (no entertainment!)

WeeMadArthur · 03/02/2018 19:41

Best was at a Scottish wedding where they did some highland dancing for the relatives that had come over from Canada, everyone had a great time remembering their school dancing lessons and the Canadians had a hoot.

Worst was a group of us were invited to the evening do of a friend. There was no food put on for the evening guests and the only place to sit was the room the meal had been in so there was only enough seating for the people who had been at the meal. We ended up sat in the hotels reception area eating bags of crisps from the bar.

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SkeletonSkins · 03/02/2018 21:14

Stealing some idea for our own from the best bits! I'd hate there to be no one dancing...

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