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Cost of staying at venue - guest

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pollu85x · 15/01/2018 07:06

I've never been in this situation before so just want to check what is usual. We are guests at a wedding this year and said we'd stay at the venue and I've now found out the cost is £250 per night. This is far more than I was expecting and as we will barely be in the room (as we will be at the wedding and then rushing home next day to DC) I'm not that happy about it. I've looked on the hotel website and this is their usual rate - do they normally charge full price for weddings? Wedding is in the winter so I doubt they would be getting full price on the room anyway. I'm not thinking to stay somewhere else locally.

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Unicorndiscoball · 15/01/2018 07:09

Just stay somewhere else if it’s too expensive. We’ve been to loads of weddings-some of them we’ve paid £200 for the room, others we’ve sloped off to the premier in for £50. Our choice. The hotel has a price that it charges, they’re not doing anything wrong.

LIZS · 15/01/2018 07:20

Seems cheeky to pay full amount when they have a ready made group of guests. However it may be that the full charge offsets some of the cost of the wedding booking , so the bride/groom benefit rather than their guests. Agree with looking elsewhere, even if you pay for a taxi it would probably be cheaper.

Jellybean85 · 15/01/2018 07:25

Sometimes they offer a discount but not always, we often stay nearby and get a taxi, the hotel the wedding is at will often book you one from reception. Unless it's somewhere really rural you will likely get something cheaper

ApacheEchidna · 15/01/2018 07:29

It depends on the venue - is the whole place booked out for wedding guests exclusively? In some such places the venue get the bride and groom to set the room rate - they can either subsidise the accommodation as a kindness to their friends and relatives - or they can be CFs and set the price deliberately high so that their guests are subsidising the wedding!

Look up other accommodation nearby. If you can find something not too far away that you think is better value for money, book it. If you can't easily find something else then the £250 is because market forces mean that if something is in short supply and no cheap alternative available, they can charge what they like!

DancesWithOtters · 15/01/2018 07:53

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Mooveover · 15/01/2018 07:58

I like staying at the venue itself.

Means I can sneak off for a cuppa and snooze during all the boring bits of the wedding when you’re meant to stand around making small talk.

—Misses point of thread—

Bluntness100 · 15/01/2018 08:07

Unless the couple made any commitment for additional rooms and negotiated a deal, then they will probably charge the full price for the room. Just stay elsewhere if cost is too high.

expatinscotland · 15/01/2018 08:11

Stay somewhere else. If you can't find somewhere that fits your budget, decline to go.

MargotsDevil · 15/01/2018 08:22

We found that hotels fell into two categories when we were choosing a venue. Either there was no discount but also no requirement to book x number of rooms, or a requirement to book a minimum number of rooms which offered a (minimal) discount per room. As our venue is pretty local to most of our guests we chose one with no requirement to book rooms as we felt the potential discount was unlikely to impact the number of people staying but could have ended up costing us quite a lot!

Bellamuerte · 15/01/2018 08:32

I wouldn't pay £250 for a hotel room. It's a bit inconsiderate of the bride and groom to choose such an expensive venue if they know guests will be staying over. I'd book somewhere cheaper nearby and if there isn't anywhere I'd decline the wedding invitation (and say why).

peachypetite · 15/01/2018 08:34

Just look on booking.com for alternative accommodation?

blueskyinmarch · 15/01/2018 08:36

The bride and groom are hardly to blame for choosing the venue they wanted. Surely the OP should have checked the cost of the rooms before agreeing to stay there?

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pollu85x · 15/01/2018 09:27

Thabks for replies. I think we will stay somewhere else locally, we don't actually have to final confirm the room until a month before the wedding.

Just to fill in the details it was my husband who said we would stay at the venue. He is best man so not going isn't really an option. I think the hotel is booked exclusively so feel a little bad not staying there if the bride and groom will have to pay for empty hotel rooms.

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ApacheEchidna · 15/01/2018 22:20

we don't actually have to final confirm the room until a month before the wedding.

I think the hotel is booked exclusively so feel a little bad not staying there if the bride and groom will have to pay for empty hotel rooms

Please do the decent thing and tell the B&G that you aren't staying there asap. If you wait till a month before they won't have a chance to offer the room to other guests.

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