I have been with my partner for a number of years. We live together and are in a very happy relationship. When we met originally we were both anti marriage. However over the last few years I have changed my mind and told my parter that I did want to get married after all, during this chat I was told that he didn’t feel the same way. He said he was unsure if he believed in marriage, this is almost certainly due to his dad walking out on him when he was about 3.
I felt very hurt and rejected by this discussion. We are still very strong as a couple and are best friends but obviously that is upsetting to hear.
Reciently however, my partner has said that he has been thinking a lot about marriage and that he intends to propose to me one day. The problem is that by being rejected the first time I now feel as though any proposal would be totally contrived and forced. I have told my partner this and that I don’t want him to do this as I would not accept we’re he to propose. I suppose I’m on here asking you if I am being stupid to not give him he benefit of the doubt or do you agree that it’s not as special now as I feel as though I’ve twisted his arm. Xxx