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Staged wedding photos

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chamenanged30 · 01/09/2017 08:10

I hate them, dp wants them. I'd rather pictures snapped unawares, au naturale if you like. This has become a bone of contention.

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TheDowagerCuntess · 01/09/2017 08:17

Some staged, some au natural?

I have to admit, if you're struggling with this level of compromise now, married life's not going to be a barrel of laughs for you both (light-hearted ).

LadyWithLapdog · 01/09/2017 08:20

What do you mean by staged? Surely group photos are ok and they have to be staged. If you mean going somewhere scenic and looking in certain ways in each other's eyes etc then I'm with you.

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chamenanged30 · 01/09/2017 08:22

Yes lady that. But the general "stand here", "put your arms here", "look this way", "all together now....".

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CryingMessFFS · 01/09/2017 08:22

We had both. A couple of staged and most natural. Ceremony pics all natural (or reportage I think it is called), outside did a few 'posed' ones with groups of guests so parents, then siblings then friendship groups etc. Then a few mixed of posed couple shots and natural ones (only took 10min as I was dying of embarrassment 😂) then at reception all were natural reportage ones. They're my favourite ones of everyone as they really capture the moment! I'm glad I at least had a couple of posed ones too!

FacelikeaBagofHammers · 01/09/2017 08:23

I think it really depends on the photographer. I think you do need those group photos and then the rest of them can be au natural. Though with regards to the photographer, you do get what you pay for

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chamenanged30 · 01/09/2017 08:29

Photographer is my friend so that's no bother. I don't want group shots, I mean I do, but naturally when people are having fun, not all posed and performed.

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LadyWithLapdog · 01/09/2017 09:09

We were at a wedding recently. The photographer had a list of groups of people for various configurations of group photos and went in order through it. It meant all was done quickly and efficiently. I could also see her snapping away for natural photos. But it means when the photos are ready I will get ones of my DCs dancing or whatever and the group photo with the bride and groom and the one with the B&G and us and SIL, BIL, MIL but not necessarily a natural one of SIL laughing with someone I don't know or MIL having a glass with some other relative. In other words, I think groups photos have a role.

Garlicansapphire · 01/09/2017 09:11

I got all au naturelle and regretted not having any staged - where they make sure you both look your best. I know a couple of friends who did the same and had the same regrets.

But I couldn't bear hours of formal staged photos - some people seem to miss out on some of the social fun.

LadyWithLapdog · 01/09/2017 09:18

We were in a beautiful location as tourists a few weeks ago. There was a B&G and two photographers. We congratulated them but they told us they weren't getting married yet, that day was just for photos. I was baffled and wondered if this is 'a thing' now.

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chamenanged30 · 01/09/2017 09:23

There seem to be lots of cliched shots - the bridesmaids picking up the groom for example. That's not my cuppa tea at all!

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DandelionAndBedrock · 01/09/2017 09:28

I think there is a difference between staged (bride picking up groom, groom hilariously trying to run away and being fenced off by wall of bridesmaids etc) and posed (stand by that wall and look over here). I agree posed photos have a purpose, but dislike staged ones.

A friend's wedding photos included her with about 8 different groups of friends - EACH ONE had someone "hiding" under her dress and sticking their head out. The first one was vaguely endearing but when they come one after another it is just odd.

CryingMessFFS · 01/09/2017 10:11

There seem to be lots of cliched shots - the bridesmaids picking up the groom for example. That's not my cuppa tea at all!

Well, you've said your DP wants some staged ones, so you're going to have to compromise.

Garlicansapphire · 01/09/2017 10:18

Oh yes avoid staged, jokey and cliched. Yucky yucky - though they can be good for laughs over the years - like those american 70s family staged pics!

Get a few formally posed so you have some looking your best pics of you two and close family.

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chamenanged30 · 01/09/2017 16:37

We're both too stubborn to back down!!

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TheNoseyProject · 01/09/2017 16:46

Without a few 'all together now' shots you don't guarantee having at least one picture of all your guests. Also, will family want copies? If so, a couple of line ups might be good for that. Natural ones you tend to need to get loads of. Also you might want to have a couple of you and dh together or you might windup without any full length ones of your dress or without any of the pair of you together.

Surely since you both like different styles you just do half and half?

Doobigetta · 01/09/2017 17:04

I don't think you need many group shots- one of everyone, one of each of your families and each set of friends- to get what you need from them. It's when people have every possible combination that the session drags on- the bride's school friends, the bride's friends from ballet, the bride's uni friends, the bride's friends with blonde hair.....
I agree with everyone who hates the naff joke shots. Everyone jumping in the air, doing a Usain Bolt thing- they all look shit and make people feel silly.

Justabadwife · 01/09/2017 19:44

The only problem i have with 'not posed' photos is in big groups you get people not looking at the camera, blinking, mid drink, mid convo. Do you want this in your album?

We gave our tog a list of people to photo and then he wandered around, we had none of the cliche shots, no body was picked up, pushed over, thown in the lake on my wedding day 😂

Some advice our photographer gave us was unless you are pg dont have your DP put his hand on your stomach (i know its quite hard not to) otherwise it looks like a pregnancy photoshoot. 😂

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