A little rant & yes ibu!

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My BIL is getting married nxt yr, really Happy for them!

He has asked his two godchildren (two nieces) to be jr bridesmaid & flower girl.

Just a little put out, understand & happy he asked his two godchildren but he only has another niece, (my DD), just a little hurt she won't b taking part in the day, she's in the same class as the girl that will b flower girl (she is all Excited)!

I know ibu but just feel hurt & just want to change the way I feel, I was really looking fwd to it but now I'm just a bit upset!

I just wanted a little rant, I know shouldn't let it bother me! his wedding! I just want to get back to looking fwd to it again, Any tips???

Could you ask him if there's a little job your DD can do? Just to make it special for her. Can explain you respect his decision etc

I think he just wants to leave it with his godchildren, he has nephews aswell.

Jr bridesmaid is his brothers child, flower girl is his sisters & my DH his other brother are the only ones that have kids in the family.

He's v. laid back & don't think he wud have even thought anymore of it. I really like him, just put out & don't want to feel upset about it!

You can still make it special for your DD by taking her shopping for a lovely outfit to wear, new shoes etc. She can still have a magical day.

I was a bridesmaid for the first time in my 30s so she still has time if that's what she wants!

I know il make sure she will Enjoy herself!

I'm just still feeling upset over it & hopefully I will have it all out of my system before the wedding!

If I had sons I wouldn't have minded, it's just that he has 3 nieces & 2 of them have a role, the Bride has no nieces/nephews on her side.

I don't like feeling like this ...

I wouldn't take it up with him, it's really his (and his partner's) decision, however hurtful it seems. Take her out to choose a nice outfit or help with the gift or card, so she has some buy-in into the event.

I know it's their wedding & I respect their choice but I still feel hurt!

TBH I don't have godchildren so don't know what it's like but I've love all my Dh nieces & nephews & never looked at them any differently!

My BIL seemed to have gr8 time for my DD & I suppose this has high lighted he has a different relationship with them!

My DD doesn't have an issue with any of this, she's oblivious & is a v. happy contented child.

It's just me & I Hate feeling like this & just want to move on, not take it personally but I'm just feel a bit stuck...