Is 5000 a good price

[wonderingsoul]

Would you say 5000 is relativily cheap for a wedding? (Obviousely you can do it waaayyy cheaper ) but im seeing if i can cut down even more.

The 5000 includes
Nice victorian hotel well have our ceramony and reception there. Well have use of 2 ball rooms and bar
3 course sit down meal for 50 people
A hot and cold buffet later on for 90 people
Glass of 1 wine for each person on arriaval

1 with dinner and 1 for speeches

A dj
Included table/chair covers
3 teir cake (am making my self)
Night in briadal suit
Wedding dress
Wedding shoes
Nails
Grooms suit
6 bridsmaids outfit
2 page boys
1 flower girl
All table decorations- candle fairy lights will do my self
Pew decorations -will be candles will do my self
1 bouquet- fake flowers will make myself

Photograph and make up and hair is being done for free by friends.

The venue package is 4200 and includeds everythjng bar decoration. So the last 800 ill be spending to get outfits and bits for decoration

Can i trim it further ?

1 glass of wine per person at dinner is a bit tight- you should really reckon on a bottle for every two guests. Could you spend more there and cut down the size of the bridal party? Nine is a lot. Could you just have two bridesmaids and a flower girl?

Not bad going at all really.

Agree with possibly two glasses of wine with the meal (or half a bottle) being more standard.

I think that's a good price for what you're getting but agree you'd normally have a few bottles of wine per person not just one glass

Does the venue package include a DJ for the evening?

Although having said that, if the hotel package is £4,200 I think depending on what you want it might be a struggle for the rest.

But perfectly doable. We picked our bridesmaid dressed up for thirty quid each in a sale.

I'm with Doobigetta. Do you really need so many attendants? And you don't need fancy chair covers or loads of decorations. No-one notices things like that. I would also spend the last £800 on drinks - and don't forget soft drinks.

Are you planning to get actual bridal shoes? You can get loads of shoes that are lovely & loads cheaper (and you'll likely wear again)

If you're having a cake serve that for desert & only pay for a two course meal - otherwise it probably won't get eaten, use the desert money towards more drinks instead

That should be dresses up.....

Have you included the fees for the actually ceremony? I think ours were about £400.

I wouldn't spend the money on alcohol as someone else has suggested - we bought the bar alcohol ourselves and charged guests £1 per drink, just to cover our costs. But I don't know if your venue will allow you to do that? I personally think it's fine to expect people to pay for drinks at a wedding if you provide a toast drink and a glass or two of wine during the food (as you are). My wedding came in at £5000 and I also did my own cake and had a family member do photographs, which helped. I only had two bridesmaids though - I bought their dresses from Debenhams rather than a bridal shop (they were nicer, and cheaper than bridal). If you haven't already asked people and won't offend them, you could try trimming some of the attendants (as someone else has suggested). But having said that, you don't want to cut people just to save money if it's important to you that they're a part of it.

The 3 drinks per person are included in the hotel deal along with the dj.

The only thing out side of the package is outfits and table decorations.

I agree about the brismaids and i wish i had reallybl thought about it. We have a very tight group where we all speack daily and it felt wrong to only ask one or two so in my head it had to be all or none.

Wedding dress iv seen for 150
Bridsmaid dress are £25 (off ebay ) theyll be buying their own shoes.
Grooms i think we will hire for the day.. is it cheaper?

I could buy a bottle or 2 per table. Thatd be nice

You sound lovely and thoughtful. I hope your wedding goes with a swing.

I see where you're coming from about the bridesmaids, and you've probably done the right thing in that case. We hired suits but it was still surprisingly expensive. It depends what you want though - my husband wanted the full waistcoat, top hat, tails thing, so that was probably more.

I think it's doable for the budget you've got!

You could ask the bridesmaids to buy their own dresses. I know opinion is divided on whether that's ok, but if you let them choose the dresses and therefore set the budget, I think it's fine.

Thank you lonicera

megan he wants a white suit.. (im not so sure on that but thats a different thread lol) so i guess guess a normal suit store would work.

doob my friends did talk about buying there own but id rarther have some say in it (long as they still liked and felt comfortable in them off course)

I think that sounds reasonable! Can you ditch the chair covers? Unless the chairs aren't very nice? IMHO chair covers can looks a bit rubbish.

Wine thing wouldn't bother me as long as there is plenty of food and option to buy more wine.

5k is what our band alone cost!! You're doing super. Remember what the day is all about, you and your other half making a huge commitment in front of all your loved ones. Once you're happy, that's all that matters!!

Bored they come in the package.

But am going to see it monday and maybe put a deposit down. Going to haggle with the price to and see if we can get it down a bit more due it being off peak in (2) febuary and a sunday.

sally your soo right.. i would elope or marry him in a registary office if i could and spend the money on a good honey moon making more merrories . Its him that wants a proper affair and do. He had a a court room matriage first time round, he says he want to take part in the ideas and planning this time and for it to feel special. But we still need to do it on a budgit.

I think it'll feel even more special because so many things are personal and handmade. It's lovely that he wants to be involved. You'll have a great day!

You may het some off for being on February, although not around Valentine's Day.

Having just gone through this with my DSis you won't get much off for it being a Sunday though.

5k for all that is a good deal imo.

What are you doing about Best Man, and other male members of the wedding party?

Wedding rings?

As others has said I think you need more wine with dinner. I wouldn't expect to have to buy wine for the table - but after dinner drinks are fine to buy. As a guest I would feel a bit awkward asking the waiters for more wine a dinner and being asked to pay for it.

Best man is yet to be named but would be a suit (most if hes mates have a smart suit due to their work) if not well have to budgit that in.

Rings we hadnt actually thought off. Thank you for reminding me piglet how on earth have we forgot them. I am happy to just use my engagment ring so wed just need to find his. But it wont be a crazy amount well have to budgit extra for that.

outland i see your point. Though i dont think any one whos coming would expect a bottle just by going on other friends weddings weve been to we had to buy our own drinks from the bar, even with a sit down meal and no ones said anything. But i do think a bottle or 2 per table would be nice so ill ask how much that would be and if its not a silly amount well add that to it.

Other male members will be my two boys. (Page boy ring bearer ) Thinking a nice simple suit from asda with converses which weve budgited for.