Looks like we've been ditched for Ed Sheeran

[ExplodingCarrots]

Sent save the dates few weeks back. Ed Sheeran tickets have just gone on sale. A number of my intended guests (close family and friends) are very excitedly announcing they've got tickets and they can't wait to go 🙈 Either they've forgotten or Ed has preference.

Sat here laughing ..looks like we'll be saving some money

[ExplodingCarrots]

I didn't realise MN were save the date haters It's the norm around here.

[AllTheWittyNamesAreGone]

I like a save the date, usually get more notice that way

[ExplodingCarrots]

Ed doesn't do it for me. Plus it's 2 hours away. If people are super fans I'm not going to stop them from going. I'd encourage them to go. Im a big music lover myself. The money we save we can put towards the honeymoon

[MaroonPencil]

I cannot understand what is wrong with save the dates. On two occasions when we haven't been sent them but knew there would be a wedding in the summer I have had to ask whether we would be invited and when the date was, so as not to book a summer holiday on the same date - summer holidays are often booked six months in advance aren't they? Those were embarrassing questions that had to be very carefully worded - much better to get a save the date!

OP, we were ditched for the Rolling Stones.

[ExplodingCarrots]

Maroon exactly that. I've sent them earlier than I was going to because family members were asking what the date was because they're planning holidays etc

I wouldn't mind being ditched for the Rolling Stones.

[MeanAger]

Today 13:00 KingJoffreysRestingCuntface

Could you invite Ed to the wedding?



Yes!! Tell him he has been very inconsiderate to have his concert on the day of your wedding and caused half your guests to miss it. Tell him by way of apology you will allow him to do a special guest appearance and provide music for the evening reception.

He will be chuffed

[GabsAlot]

dpnds on the date hes doing 4 in london now

[ExplodingCarrots]

I think a lot of my guests would be delighted

[poorbuthappy]

I'll come and make up numbers.
Love a good laid back wedding. (Sounds like mine!)

[swingofthings]

Are you talking about brothers/sisters, or distant cousins? Quite a difference really. Also, they might be assuming they can go to the wedding and then make an early excuse to rush to the concert. Would be helpful if the venue was walking distance to the concert hall (just kidding!).

[WillowWeeping]

Regardless of whether it's a save the date or an invitation I'd have been upset if close friends and family chose to go to a concert over my wedding. I don't think that makes me a bridezilla

[ExplodingCarrots]

Aunty s uncles and a couple of friends. If it were my siblings or bestest friend then of course I'd be like wtf!

Poor well if you like bouncy castles, punch , pizza in the evening, cake and a dance then you're very welcome

[ExplodingCarrots]

I was laughing because it's the ones who got the save the dates who were saying they're going. None of My intended evening guests who won't have their invitations until next year have said they're going. As long as it's not immediate family I'll be cool about it. I don't want to control people's lives.

[MeanAger]

Oh I like all those things and don't much care for ed Sheehan so I'll come!

[Slimthistime]

Please don't hate me
I genuinely thought Save the Date was part of the summons. That's why I don't like them. A close friend would tell you, probably in person, what the date was. But Save the Date sent in writing feels like part of the "if you arrange something else on this day I will be annoyed with you and ringing up asking why you've declined".

[ExplodingCarrots]

Unfortunately there won't be a cheesy poem in the invite though ....

[ExplodingCarrots]

Slim I can see what you mean. But I'm not that person who will be chasing people. If people decline then that's fine by me. I have family and friends spread around and they need a lot of notice . It's no skin off my nose if people decide not to come. I just want people to come of their own accord, sit down , eat, drink and have a good day .

[winglesspegasus]

take your savings and go to one of the october metallica concerts

[MeanAger]

Today 13:35 ExplodingCarrots

Unfortunately there won't be a cheesy poem in the invite though

How selfish! What on earth will I have to base my MN wedding whinge thread on?

[hellogoodbyeendo]

OP your wedding sounds amazing! And save the dates sounds perfectly sensible.

[3luckystars]

Change the date! Especially if nothing has been finalised.

I was having an uphill battle organising our wedding years ago, something was clashing with it and everything was booked out or difficult to sort out. My mother said that if it was right then everything would have clicked into place.
So I changed it to the day before.
Problem solved, everything clicked into place.

If it's an option to change the date to a sooner one, I would definitely consider it. Good luck x

[ExplodingCarrots]

3 unfortunately can't change the date. The venue has already been booked and they're booked up for the next 2 years. Have already booked and put a deposit on quite a few things. Out of 40 guests it's likely I'll lose 5 so that doesn't bother me. Even if we only end up with 10 day guests I'll be happy and still have a good day

[Sadik]

My parents bailed out of their own wedding party half way through the evening to go to a gig

[ExplodingCarrots]

Sadik big gig or just a small local shindig?

[Sadik]

Acker Bilk - so reasonably big. I think they both liked jazz clubs better than family parties . . .
Mind you I think wedding parties were a bit of a different deal back then, it was basically family in my nan's house, so I guess if the wedding was early in the day -then by evening they'd all have fallen out it would have been winding down a bit.