I need a brides opinion!

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Hi ladies,

I am not a bride to be, I've been married for a few years. However my best friend has asked me to be her bridesmaid which I have of course agreed to.
However, she does not know (and I do not want to discuss with her) that I am TTC. She has now booked a beautiful venue for March and wants to order my dress ASAP and I don't know what to do. Do I let her order a dress that I might not be able to wear? Do I ask her to put off ordering for a couple of weeks and then stop TTC if this cycle hasn't worked?
Any thoughts from brides to be on how you'd handle this would be appreciated!

Does she know you are ttc?

Why do you not want to discuss TTC with her? that would solve your problem!

Tell her you're ttc and pick a dress that can be altered or will fit a potential bump.

Argh I thought that might be the response. Thank you.

I don't want to discuss it with her as I'm very private and I don't want to have to field questions about how it's going every month!

I would just tell her.
Brides to be can get weird and she could end up saying you've ruined her wedding day because you now don't fit in the dress or whatever.or you're taking the spotlight away from her with your bump or God knows what else. As I say brides to be can get weird.
I'd just be honest.

I found out I was due 11 weeks before my best friends wedding where I was maid of honour. We chose a floaty dress with elastic back from oasis so that it would skim my mum tum and the elastic would give me leeway. Could you lean towards this type of dress, maybe in a few sizes bigger. Under the pretence you can always have it taken in, if you put on weight you don't have to
Worry about fitting in it? X

Sorry cross posted.
Can you tell her and then say but I don't want to talk about this again until I tell you I'm pregnant? Please don't ask me, or try to guess if I don't drink one evening etc?

I'd talk to her about it. I was BM for my aunty and got pregnant after the dress had been bought.

'Luckily' bad morning sickness meant I lost weight before I put any extra on, so the dress ended up a bit loose at 5 months!

You might be fine, depending on the style of the dress, but as others have said, I'd mention the possibility just so that she doesn't freak if it happens!

Last thing you want after trying to conceive is some bugger pissing on your parade because it doesn't fit with her wedding plans

And she will be so wrapped up in her wedding that your pregnancy won't even be on her radar until it comes to getting the dress on, so just say that you'll order a size bigger and alter it yourself if needed or something, so she doesn't need to be involved.

What Glittery said. If you don't tell her, and you are left with a 'dress situation' at the 11th hour, she may well hate you for evermore.