To wear flowers in your hair or not?!

[BooseysMom]

Too late now for me but I really regret not wearing a flower or flowers in my hair on my wedding day. I had plaits each side held with plain grips and i couldn't find the cream flower i had which would have gone with my dress. I wasn't organised enough as my poor mum was seriously ill and didn't make it to the wedding. She passed away just 3 weeks later so our wedding day was over shadowed with this ... And all i keep doing is fixating on the lack of flowers in my hair !! I mean, does it really matter if you don't have them in your hair with plaits? I held flowers so that was ok!

It doesn't matter one bit. I bet you looked gorgeous and I couldn't tell you if the brides at any of the weddings I've been to wore flowers in their hair. I don't think DH would know if I wore them or not on our wedding day! I'm so sorry about your mum and that she missed your wedding. I bet she was there in spirit.

Wow, i didn't expect a reply so quickly so thank you gunpowder for your lovely msg and kind words. DH didn't notice or care one way or another like you say! Men! I think there's always something you get wrong or think you get wrong after the day! All that worry! Have you had your wedding yet? Ours was a simple registry office affair and i seemed to spend more time getting our 2 year old son ready!!

I've actually been married for years I just saw your post in active convos! Like you said, I think it's really natural to feel worried you've missed something or some little detail has gone wrong after the event. I know I definitely felt like that in the weeks after my wedding. For most of us it's the biggest most important thing we will ever organise: of course we want it to be perfect. It's also hard to enjoy it when you are looking after small DC and making sure everyone is having a good time.

Seven years(!) later though, the things I most clearly remember about our wedding are all about DH and people who were there. Silly things like him smiling when he saw me in my dress, my best friend helping me set up before the ceremony, our smallest bridesmaid dancing with her dad, that kind of thing. I don't regret or worry over the little details anymore. I'm sure it will be the same for you.

Congratulations btw.

Thank you. ☺ . well it was a year ago now and i know it's stupid to be fretting now about things we didn't get right. But as mum was so ill, we ended up cancelling the party we were going to have and would have cancelled the actual wedding but she wanted us to go ahead with it. It's funny as the photos of my hair from the side look rubbish and the ones taken from the front (from a distance! ) look ok and it makes no difference that there are no flowers. I couldn't decide on colours for flowers to hold so my sister-in-law made the bouquet and added a little bit of everything i liked so that was great. The thing to do is focus on what went well. Like you say, the way your DH smiled when he saw you in your dress ..that's what matters and the memory will stay with you forever. xx

I think it's not so much the flowers that you are stressed about, but the stress you had in your life at the time manifesting itself as stress about the flowers (I hope that makes sense). Congratulations and I'm sorry about your mum.

Hi paap and thank you for your kind words. I think you're def right. ..it still feels very raw and the flowers thing might well be a sort of unconscious distraction from the pain of her never making it to the wedding and passing away not long after. She didn't even get to see the photos. I just miss her so much 😭 ...so time should heal the wounds as they say and i just have to try and focus on the good things.
Thanks again xx